I’m sorry you’re going through this!! Can you talk to him when he’s (ever) feeling good? Have an understanding, like, for every verbal insult you will take off with the baby for night and he will have to deal with mom.

Other option: Open a SEPERATE checking account and pour all your money into that and YOU move into YOUR apartment ASAP.

A terrible thought, but that which is based on reality: the more a man verbally abuses you, the more likely he will be to physically abuse you. Check out the Domestic Violence numbers and Women’s Shelters. They will help you get into a SAFE place, get a lawyer, find you a new home. I know you’re thinking “This is not for me”, and that this isn’t good news. But that is where it is headed unless he suddenly gets his head out of his azz.

Hi Nydia!

First and foremost I am sorry that you are going through this. As for everything that’s going on within your marriage, it could definitely equate to you, your husband, and your son living with your parents. As of right now, I would suggest that you, your hubby, and your son move out of your parent’s home asap. This will only continue to put a damper in your relationship with your husband and the relationship with your mom as well. As a married couple, you both should definitely be out on your own. There’s no privacy for you and your husband at your parent’s house. Also, speaking from experience, a husband likes to feel that he’s taking care of his wife and providing her with the best life possible and he can’t do that if you’re living with your parents. He doesn’t have anything to “call HIS home with his wife”. Finding an apartment or even a house to rent will still be a great start and you can from there start saving money for your dream home together. Once you make this step and this decision, this will definitely ease up some of the stress that he’s going through. I’m not using that as an excuse for him to call you names and to degrade you but men have a really hard time really expressing their feelings. Also, this would be a question for you as well as it takes to imperfect people to make a marriage work if they both are willing to put in the word, what are some things that you have been doing lately to help uplift your hubby? Even if you don’t feel like he’s doing anything to uplift you at all at this point because of everything that’s going on, when you start doing things to uplift him, he’s more capable of returning the favor. This might sound crazy but with men, we have to “cater” to them in a way that triggers them to feel loved, just as we require the same in order for us to feel safe, on the same page, and like the relationship is blossoming. These are a few suggestions in my opinion but I would love to talk with you more if you want to regarding this and how you can start getting your marriage back on the right track. If this is something that you would love to discuss with me, you can email. Send lots of love your way and praying for you and your hubby and your son as well.