I agree with Kkasxo

The issue your having isn’t’ about this girl or her past its about how your ideal of what kind of past a person deserving your love should have. Which is fine as long as your being honest with yourself and that qualification for love is important to you however it begs the question as to if are capable of seeing her as she is and not only as a projection of your own needs and ‘standards’.  Sorry if I’m being harsh but if you can’t get over this ‘hurt’ you feel she has done to you what your experiencing is not love. (Life demands growth so this experiencing may push you into a deeper relationship with love or it may leave you bitter without have learned very much about yourself)

You can choose to be happy and witness and love each other as you both are, the good the bad and the ugly, or you can continue to blame her for “hurting” you for not being the ideal perfect person you imagine she must be to have your love. It doesn’t take a physic to predict how the latter choice will work out.

Nobody,

What are the “things that have been complicated?”

My observation and experience is that to know someone’s relationship background (including their family-of-origin upbringing) speaks volumes in understand how they are and how they “do” relationship.

I would look in askance in knowing someone who has such a history of such a string of relationships.  What is her story about that?  What is driving her to go from one to another and not be able to “settle down?”

Are you teenagers?  Early twenties?  Exploring relationships?

Mark

Nobody,

For me, it will be hard to be with ANYONE who constantly criticizes me.  Why should she trust you?  What is making you change your behavior?

I’m with Peter on his observations of you.

Are you talking?  Communicating?  Being honest, kind and authentic with her?  That is what makes a good relationship.

Own your shit with her.  Apologize.  Change your behavior and start treating her with compassion, kindness and love.

If you really love her then show it.

Mark

You’ve impressed me Nobody

Mark and I were pushing back, and you remained open to the criticism where many people might have becoming defensive.  For me this indicates that you’re the kind of person that works to do better when they learn better which if you think about it is all we can ask of ourselves and others.

You and your partner might find David Richo book ‘How to be a Adult in Relationships’ a helpful guide as you discover each other and yourselves through your relationship together.

I wish you all the best. Don’t forget to be kind to yourself if and when you miss the mark. We fall, we get up and we learn… and we are always falling.