Dear Connie:

You wrote: “My friends suggest I should start dating again but I seem to lose my ability to love or even have the romantic feelings for anyone. I don’t even have the motivation to go on dates”- considering that relationship you had, no wonder.

What if you give up on the love and romantic motivation for dating, and adapt a different motivation: to get to know a decent man, to learn who a man is and only if he is a decent, honest, kind man, then consider romance and love. But for now, aim at dating as an opportunity to learn and get to know this or that men. What do you think?

anita