Dear Tom:

I can almost feel your heartbreak through the computer screen.

If you go back with her, she will have to earn it. She will have to somehow go out of her way to have you back.

Question is what will she need to do to earn the privilege of having you back in her life as a partner. Think about it and let me know what it may be, will you?

anita

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Dear Tom:

There may very well be too much water under the bridge. She betrayed you in a terrible way. I suppose she took you for granted, treated you as if you were not worthy of being treated respectfully. It may be that you invested so much in the wrong person.

Please post more. I am not focused very well at this time, but if you post more I will read when I am focused tomorrow morning, in about 15 hours from now, and reply to you further then.

anita

Hi Tom,

I’m so sorry with what you’re going through. It makes my own heartbreak story (awaiting moderation) like a child’s play compared to yours. I do hear a lot of stories about ex getting back together but this is by far one of the worst. Here’s my take on your situation. Walk away, and save yourself from further risk of heartbreak. Give her a chance (which to me she seems pretty genuine despite y’all arguments) and it may just work out this time or more heartbreak. But take my advice with a grain of salt. Anita is right, she has to work hard to earn your trust back. But I’m curious about what happened that ended her affair with her ex a week before meeting you again.