Hey little dreamy,

Can i be a bit frank with you? Was this guy your first relationship virtually or your first real life one? It seems that you have mistaken a sexual flirtation and infatuation for love. An endless energy has been expended on your part for someone you have never met and has not even made the slightest real step to be with you. Why all this trouble? And now that its finally over and you are picking up the pieces that this person on the internet left for you (no more deep talks on phone, sex talks, distractions, flirting), the vulnerabilities of a real life relationship are making you question the very existence of love.

Lets be fair – Not every guy is an asshole and you have to stop being so shit scared about it. If you want to receive love, you have to learn to live with the fear of getting hurt too. That is not easy when you have already been hurt but believe me, just be careful this time. He was having fun with you and didnt have the balls to take you seriously. But tell me something very practically, what were you expecting from a 21 year old dude on the internet? Life-long love and commitment, till death do us apart? Yeah you have been silly and i am not going to beat around the bush about.

Just dont stop living because of the mistake you made with this guy. Get over it. Only you can do. I was with someone for 5.5 years and he broke my heart to shreds – it wasnt online but it was devastating. Eventually i did come across my current bf through an online route (not a dating website though, funny story) and i will tell you what – we met after that soon to confirm if this was indeed real and we will move to the same city soon so that we can know each other even more closely. Its been almost a year and he has stuck with me, been responsible. Every guy isnt the same and stories are different. After the last one ended so badly, i lost hope but i found it again in the most unexpected place.

When a guy really wants to make something work, he will make it happen. That is what i learned from the love of my life right now. All is not lost but you need to pick yourself up and move on – the best relationships begin with friendship.

Think about it 🙂

Regards,
Moon

Little Dreamy…

*hugs*

Ok, he sounds like a not a very nice person and I really think you need to stay well away from him. This break up sounds like blessing in disguise indeed.

Relationship should be two way street and it’s NOT always about sex. And talking about sex, it’s pictures and sex chat… babes, this is not a real relationship.

Please please pretty please… move on. Block him out and MOVE on! I know how painful a heartbreak can be, trust me I have been there. Dont give up on love.. dont give on hope and for now.. just look after your self, your inner self.

Devoted 6months to a year just to look after Little Dreamy! Go to the gym, have healthy foood, hang out with your friends.

Love will come again when the time is right.

Chin up girl!

Much love xo

dear little dreamy,

I completely understand your situation because I have been through the same thing and it took me eight years before realizing that he was cheating on me and lying to me the whole time. I am just a year older than you are. I was in a long distance relationship for almost 4 and half years and before that I was in a relationship with the same guy for four years. I loved him more than I loved myself and gave him my best in all aspects. As you mentioned, whenever I visited my home country, all that he wanted from me was sex. He never bothered to ask how I was or how things are in my life. He was very disrespectful, emotionally abusive, rude, short tempered, no kind words, no hugs, no cuddles except for I want sex which fortunately I denied. He told me that his parents don’t like me because I am not good looking, I am skinny, I am dark complected, I am not giving him any kind of sexual pleasure. I was so depressed, lost myself, lost my confidence, lost my self esteem, isolated myself from everyone and I felt like a loser because of all the words he said to me. So, I know how disgusting it feels everytime that person crosses your mind. He was extremely controlling, possessive, doubted me every single day and my life was nothing but a hopeless mess for eight years. He would break up with me and come back to me when he wanted money or some material things and I have literally lost count of how many times he has done that. I can’t believe I was so gullible all these years to all the lies he weaved. I was so deeply and madly in love with him that I was completely heartbroken, din’t want to see him or guys at all.

But then I realized that it’s my life and I shouldn’t get bitter just because one person din treat me right. I decided that I don’t want to waste anymore precious time thinking about him or all the wrong he did to me. I know I should let it all go not for his sake but for my own peace and happiness. There are plenty of gentlemen out there who will love you for who you are and treat you right. Be thankful that you did not marry him to discover later that he did not deserve you. You would be more devastated if that would have happened. It’s a blessing in disguise. Thinking about him and being depressed won’t take you anywhere in life. Just think about him, he found someone and he is happy with no regrets in life. Why should you cry for him. It’s time that you enjoy and live your life too. You have something much much better in store for you and that is the reason things did not work out with a loser like him. Trust me girl, you will find a man who will love you with all his heart. I am in the same situation as you and all I am doing is hoping and praying that I find my man when the time is right. Now, I am focusing completely on my life and not living a life that he wanted me to live. Hang out with your friends, go out and do things you enjoy doing, go to a spa, groom yourself, have a positive self talk for a few minutes everyday, try something fun and interesting which you always wanted to do, be happy and lastly smile 🙂 because you are you for a reason and nobody can be you. You are beautiful just the way you are :). You know what, I had a photo shoot recently just for fun and each and every person who saw my pics told me I am gorgeous and beautiful and I should try modeling ;). So, don’t let one person who has lost his brains decide your beauty or life. Be patient with yourself and life honey. There are plenty of books which will uplift your spirit and motivate you, get into the habit of reading. God has nothing but the best for you. The man of your dreams is out there somewhere, you just haven’t crossed paths yet. I am sure he will come in to your life soon and you will be happier than ever. Savor every moment of your life. May god bless you. Keep SMILING coz you never know who will fall in love with you and your smile 🙂

You don’t need to find someone to love you, you are a beautiful person and you understand someone, that guy is nothing but a player who can’t be faithful. Look at yourself, you are good girl and you have done great things for him but he never did so girl that’s his loss not yours. Don’t go back to him because he doesn’t deserve you, god is keeping him away from you for some reason so let it be and move on and one more thing, that was not love what you were feeling for him. He knew the art of making you feel special and that is something you miss the most and it can only be replaced if you date someone. Yes dating someone can get you off from your old feelings because as of now you really need to focus on yourself and move on.Be with someone who makes you happy babe,not stress you out 🙂 Good luck and i am glad to know that you are feeling better.