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  • November 29, 2017 at 4:27 am #179853
    Inky
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    Hi Brooke,

    You have to understand, on a deep level, that your BF was NOT punishing you. Some people are very sensitive and will run and hide at the first hint of abuse. What he did was actually pretty healthy.

    Another thing to keep in mind is all relationships have Honeymoon periods. When you blacked out and called him names, he might have thought, “Finally I am seeing her shadow side and it doesn’t look good. Deep down this girl is bat-**** crazy!”

    The only way to truly move on is to vow never to touch alcohol again. Get yourself in a support group. He didn’t deserve to be called idiot and loser just because you can’t handle your liquor.

    Best,

    Inky

    November 29, 2017 at 9:14 am #179921
    Eliana
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    Hi Brooke,

    I think right now, just give it time. He may be very hurt in shock. Things don’t look very promising, but there is always hope. He just focused on the bad, seeing you “black out” then lashing out at him, and verbally abusing him saying very hurtful and hateful things. It takes a long time for someone to recover from something like that. Have you ever drank like that to cause you to “pass out” or “black out” like that? He is probably wondering if it could happen again, or there may be a drinking problem..but I do know he is feeling very hurt, troubled by all this and confused and maybe he wants to take a step back and re-evaluate things. I would just give it time and wait for him to contact you, and try hard not to do this again. x

    November 29, 2017 at 11:39 am #179981
    Anonymous
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    Dear Brooke:

    Your abusing your boyfriend is the cause. Him responding  by getting away from you is the effect. I think you confused the two. When we punch a hole in the wall, the punching is the cause. The  hole is the  effect. We don’t accuse the wall for responding (effect)  to our punching it (cause).

    anita

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