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  • September 2, 2014 at 3:40 am #64224
    Inky
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    Hi M,

    It sounds like he was “OK” but not “Great”. If being a gamer and hanging out with his friends was a deal breaker, then there wasn’t enough going on with him for you to stay. It’s like being in a restaurant and everyone’s raving about it, giving it five stars, and you’re all, “But it’s McDonalds”. But you own stock in the company, so you stay and finish the burger.

    I think you’re feeling dejected. It will pass. Even if you stayed together it sounds like there wasn’t enough “glue” there to last through your twenties. Time will heal this. Maybe “Hide” him on FaceBook so you don’t see him everyday?

    September 2, 2014 at 1:13 pm #64260
    sojourner
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    You need time to heal. That’s it, plain and simple. You can’t push a chain – it just gets bungled up. Do things for yourself that make you feel good and nurtured. Practice mindfulness. Ain’t no way to move on faster, it takes the time it takes, but it will pass and you will be whole and happy again. Remember that happiness comes from inside yourself and your connection to the Universe (or God, or whatever works for you), and that you don’t need someone else to complete you. A loving relationship is wonderful, it’s groovy, but it’s not the end all.

    Breathe. Rest. Cry. Eat well, exercise and pray. You will be ok. It’s just gonna take time.

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