We have our own tasks in the house, he helps with the bins and the pots – without asking 90% of the time. This helps me alot.

However, in the grand scheme of things house hold chores are not really important.

The problems we have are more important:

• He said he would complete a spreadsheet for my business and i asked 3/4 times and he wont give me a deadline (he says he doesn’t want to do that, he will complete when he has time) – not realising the importance. So the 5th time i ask i blow my top off.
• I need invoices for a house we have been doing up, so that i can show the council that the property was not habital at the time of purchase, so we get a reduction in costs – i asked for these like 4 times and he still hasn’t done it
• He needs to ring solicitor to find out about the management company (our new home is going in his name) – so they won’t speak to me

If i can do the above myself, I will do, but some things which are out of my control i can’t – so what do i do? I ask calmly like 3/4 times, every few days and say “ok” to what he hasn’t done. Then the 5th time it normally ends in an argument, he tells me i need to stop nagging and trust he will do stuff.

If I did just trust… like i have before, nothing gets done at all.

I have asked him for a solution, i’ve tried having an app where i can add things on for him to remember (as he is busy) – he doesn’t check the app.

I don’t want to nag or keep asking. What do i do? I though the best solution would be he could give me a date he would have it done by so i dont have to ask – he said he is not like me, he doesnt work to strict deadlines.

HELP.