Hi Amanda,

We can only imagine what HE’S going through. The important thing to keep in mind is: They are having enough difficulty managing their illness. They cannot be responsible for our feelings as well. We CANNOT be a burden to them. The way he is acting towards you it is clear that he sees your constant emotional attention as a burden. He is under a tremendous amount of stress right now. He may not have the physical energy to keep up a conversation or is too plagued with legitimate worry for one.

The BEST gift we can give them is to follow their lead. I don’t know if this cancer is Stage 3 or 4 or what, but I’ve noticed that people can become very “selfish” and “trim the fat” of their lives knowing that their time is limited. You were only with him for a short time. Honor that by not making it more than it was.

I suggest visiting him once a month if he’s home and once a week if he’s in the hospital. And perhaps an OCCASSIONAL text/call/care package. Keep it light and happy.

Good Luck,

Inky

• This reply was modified 8 years ago by Inky.