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How to not feel like you were born with the "short end of the stick" ?

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  • December 3, 2015 at 10:29 pm #88853
    jock
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    Just keep going. Have determination. Look to support others and magically you will find yourself supported. (this has been my experience anyway). Life takes courage and endurance. Are you up for the challenge?

    December 4, 2015 at 4:07 am #88856
    Inky
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    Hi Rose,

    People are like magpies (they like bright and shiny things) or they’re like dogs and cats (can pick up someone’s energy).

    I was just like you. But as soon as I put on jewelry or dressed in fashionable clothes, makeup, nails, etc. the people already close to me felt threatened, “Where are YOU going, Inky? Work??” or “WHERE are you GOING???” or “Where are YOU going?” LOL. BUT the people who didn’t really know me ~ all of a sudden, they wanted to talk to me!! I am an introvert, so jeans and t-shirts for me, please!

    Or it’s your energy/vibe. Try smiling, being helpful, being the first person to speak up, ask someone if they want anything, pretend you’re the hostess of the event or the owner of the room. Ask, “Do you need help?” the next time someone gives you a weird look. Other lines are, “Are you lost?” “You look lost, can I help you?” Or, “Do you want to sit here?” That changes the script!

    Just experiment every day! Pretty soon you won’t need tips or tricks to help you, nor will you care! Strangers are overrated anyway! Stay with the people who love you and stick to the Light!

    Blessings,

    Inky

    December 4, 2015 at 7:45 am #88864
    Anonymous
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    Dear Rose:

    Journaling is good but is not enough. You need healing within the context of an actual relationship with another person. Maybe a good psychotherapist. You need someone to listen to you, to ask you questions, gently, to SEE you, inside, to validate you, to help you see that you are not weird or crazy but that what you feel makes sense. And it is so, what you feel does make sense if you have insight and understand what happened in your young life and how you understandably reacted then. And how those reactions still operate in the present out of habit, although they are not working for you anymore.

    You wrote: “I still felt left out, unimportant,invisible It’s like everything I do is wrong”- there is no doubt in my mind (!) that you felt left out, unimportant and invisible as a young child, and that you were told in some convincing way that you were wrong. I have no doubt it happened- not that you imagined it happened- but that indeed it happened to Rose the Child.

    And Rose the Child is still.. is you. You see the rejecting parent or care taker in other people, leaving you out, treating you as unimportant. Sometimes they do, often they just don’t pay attention to what they are doing, what they are looking at, engaged in their own thinking, spaced out. But you IMAGINE they are thinking about you and seeing you are weird.

    All along it is you who are thinking those things because they happened to you in childhood, during the years your brain was forming (“formative years”)

    If you would like you can post more, write more, because you like to write and NEED to be seen, through your writing. When I am back to the computer, I will attentively read what you write and respond thoughtfully. Maybe others will too. Maybe you can write about those early experiences of being taught you were unimportant.. and your current relationship with the people who taught you that (untrue) thing,

    anita

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