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  • #349022
    CB
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    She didn’t have a will as she had dementia so her estate went equal to her 3 kids

    She was so good to me and loved me as for he son my ex well what can I say I don’t understand it recognise the man he is today

    In the years we were together he was never money orientated he has changed to become unrecognizable

    It completely breaks my heart

     

    #349034
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear CB:

    “he has changed to become unrecognizable”- it hardly ever happens that people drastically change: it can happen as a result of a stroke, or if a person suffers a brain injury. People don’t spontaneously change drastically. Usually, it’s that we didn’t know the person to begin with, or that we didn’t notice who they’ve been changing slowly,  for a long, long time. And it is only when they do something drastic, then we notice that .. something really did change.

    Like you suggested before, he probably planned on leaving long before he did. He’s been changing for a long time before he left, before you noticed that he changed.

    How is the weather, where you live? Here it is sunny, a change from how it’s been lately. It’s hard to imagine there is a pandemic going on.

    anita

    #349048
    CB
    Participant

    Weather lovely here but I am hiding out at home can’t face anything at moment it’s become too over overwhelming my son has  been going on walks with ex and he’s ok and planning his new life in finding that hard to take and he will never understand the struggles I had running out family home when we were struggling for money I juggled everything and kept us going    I can’t see how I’m ever going to rebuild

    #349054
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear CB:

    I wish you weren’t hurting in this lovely day (here and where you are). I wish you felt as sunny as it is outside. Why don’t you take a walk out? – it won’t make your heart sing, but it’s better than staying indoors all day long, you will feel just a bit better. And it’s good for your health, and your back too!

    anita

     

    #349108
    CB
    Participant

    I really have been trying too. But I feel overwhelm ed by it all I have a feeling of being crushed by my emotions and can’t see how I’m going to move forward   but tomorrow another day

    #349134
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear CB:

    “tomorrow another day”, you wrote yesterday. Today is that day, Monday, April 13, 2020. Is there anything different for you today?

    anita

    #349172
    CB
    Participant

    I’m trying so hard to be positive and be mindful and kind to myself   just last few day including today  I feel hurt and overwhelmed regarding the events of our breakup ex Mum passing and the inheritance.  It’s all too much

    I really don’t deserve these events to have taken place

    #349174
    CB
    Participant

    I’m trying so hard to be positive and be mindful and kind to myself   just last few day including today  I feel hurt and overwhelmed regarding the events of our breakup ex Mum passing and the inheritance.  It’s all too much

    I really don’t deserve these events to have taken place

    #349188
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear CB:

    “I’m trying so hard to be positive and mindful and kind to myself”- what is it that you actually do, to be positive, mindful and kind to yourself?

    anita

    #349160
    Julia
    Participant

    HI there, I am new to the forums, but yours caught my attention. I am sorry you have gone through such a loss, its never easy to end anything after any amount of time, whether it be for the best or not….but most likely it is for the best…even though it hurts like hell now. I can see this from both view points as I am divorced…5 years now, married 110 and together over 20 in total. It was my decision to get divorced and it was not an easy decision, but it was the right decision…for both of us, even though at the time it made me look selfish and brutal and uncaring. It hurt, and still does at times, but it gets easier and easier with each passing day.

    Remember this…neither of you are bad people, neither of you planned for this. This may just be that massive bump in the road for you to be able to fully get in touch with yourself and who You really are and what You really love and to create an identity that is all about You and dependent or reliant upon someone else.

    No one can make you feel anything, You are the one in control of You and how You feel. Don’t let this rock you to your core of devastation, rather try to see the multiple possibilities that lie ahead that are made just for You to explore and gain insight and a wealth of knowledge about yourself…..You will be surprise what you find and how freeing it all can be…just try : )

    Peace,

    Juliag

    #349234
    CB
    Participant

    Julia thanks for you comments  agree it’s never easy tinned someone that’s lasted 27 years     I’m just struggling with the last of respect he has shown. To tell me one day and leave the next is so wrong. Talk and show me some respect and if your still in that place in then ok

    It’s like I was living with a man on day and someone I don’t recognise the next how did I not see it coming

    Anita I’ve tried to give myself jobs each day keep busy and somewhere time to move mindful and I’m writhing a journal

    I just Sean to have lost myself not sure I’ve ever know who I am

    #349262
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear CB:

    “I just .. lost myself, not sure I’ve ever known who I am”-

    – who you are is not a necessarily a finished product, it can be a process of becoming. If you choose to be engaged in life, observing, questioning, learning about you and about other people, you will feel more and more at peace, and life will be meaningful.

    anita

    #349380
    CB
    Participant

    Anita  really hope that’s true. I’m struggling with the impact of 3 big things   breakup. Passing of mum in law and lockdown

    It’s all so overwhelming and I’m finding hard to find the strength to pick myself up and look to the future

    I truly feel in physical pain nothing like I’ve every felt before in my life

     

     

    #349412
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear CB:

    You wrote that you are struggling with three recent big events: a breakup, the passing of your partner’s mother, and the lockdown. Big events indeed.

    “I  truly feel in physical pain nothing like I’ve ever felt before”- what physical pain are you referring to: back pain, something else?

    anita

    #349518
    CB
    Participant

    I’m feeling emotional pain in a physical manor I’ve never experienced this before it’s overwhelming and I’m struggling to understand it and deal with it

    Each day in trying to get into a new routine on my own and not need the validation of others that I’m used too

    If just like to be comfortable with my own company and to find my own self worth

    I’m so sad it hurts and I need that to stop its such a negative feeling and I know I worth so much more

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