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  • December 28, 2014 at 4:58 am #69884
    Inky
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    Hi inneedoffaith,

    Can I just be the first to say that your wife is crazy.

    I can understand the new wife wanting her own baby. I really do. But NO. SHE has to stay home with it! At least until your girls are older and have the means to visit you!

    Also, she knew going in that you have two children. Her saying “Me or Them” backfired. And I’m glad it did. Who does she think she is? (Oh, yes, the wife. Well, maybe she shouldn’t be!) Usually this ultimatum is unsaid and the guy unwittingly chooses the new family. But good for making the RIGHT decision!!

    Basically she should know (she does by now!) that the children come first. Maybe in ten years or so she can conceivably come first.

    This is why people really shouldn’t date while they have kids, much less get married IMO. Who needs that awful brew?

    You made the Right Decision,

    Inky

    December 28, 2014 at 5:04 am #69885
    Kevin
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    Thank you Inky, I love my children with all my heart. I could never walk out on them it isn’t in me. And i need to accept for them to remain happy i need to be unhappy

    December 28, 2014 at 5:14 am #69886
    jade green
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    Dear Faith,

    “She gave me a choice. Give up work go home start a family with her and stay at home to help look after the baby.”

    I don’t see no choice there. You said you feel bad for leaving her 3 weeks before xmas but.. I truly don’t see any choice there. I don’t know what to say. I just don’t think you should blame yourself or anything.

    December 28, 2014 at 5:29 am #69887
    Kevin
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    Healingun, I tried everything i could to talk her round my big fear wasn’t having another child i like to think i am a good father and never let my children down. My main concern was me giving up work and the chance of any decent income i just couldn’t see how i could afford to look after a new born and 2 girls at the other end of the country with no money. I already gave up everything i could to keep her happy friends family any self worth i had i tried everything until i had nothing left to give but the thought that i couldn’t have my 2 girls and i couldn’t have walked away from them never in a million years, I just feel down and a bit sad that my marriage is well and truly over and hope i can pick myself up soon and wake without feeling guilt

    December 28, 2014 at 9:26 am #69890
    Anne
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    It’s hard to be the one who walks away, even when it’s the right thing to do There will be people who view you as the “bad guy” because of the timing, but you absolutely did the right thing. There was no choice here that would make everyone happy, sadly, but you made the right call. It takes time to get over a marriage breakdown, be kind to yourself while you heal.

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