Within these 10 years of the relationship. He also told me how he felt alone. His dad was constantly traveling for business needs and his mom would concentrate on the Muslim organization events. He would tell me how he hates them. Around 2016 he even wrote them a letter saying how he feels and in the letter he even wrote about the relationship. He even felt like his mom had an affair. I always told him to appreciate what his parents does for him. Because he is born with a golden spoon. I told him to understand how his dad works hard to provide for his the clothes he wants, a house, education, and many other things. And to not speak ill of his mother like that. I cannot understand, how in the end he turns so cold towards me. He basically treats me like a complete stranger. I barely even know him now. And the worst part, I feel like the 10-year relationship and I meant nothing to him. I feel I was some sort of a game to him or a distraction. Now that he is grown up his mom worries for suitors for him and his dad wants him involved in the business. Under that circumstance, he is getting their attention. Did he even love me? He still claims he had genuine love towards me, but he changed his mind changed. Now he only sees his parents pain. And now he feels happiness and ease with his parents.

I don’t how to behave as he did. To just walk away from the relationship like its nothing. I lost 6kg in one month. When he saw me, he made a joke out of it. Saying at least you lost weight over it. I feel I am the only one getting blamed. While he is getting a pat on his back.

If he loved me how could he leave me like that? I accept I did hurt him, but I was also not in a good state of mind, back then. He out of all people understood that. He decided after 5 years, when we had no issues to return to his parents? I never returned to my parents no matter how much he hurt me. Even when I got the proposal, even when it was easier for me to choose a life my parents planned out. I didn’t listen.

I cannot understand how he loved me? If he loved me how is he so cruel towards me? I do not see any pain from his end with regards to the relationship ending.

reads to me that he suffered a lot, had a father yelling at him, a religion he didn’t want; he wanted to run away from his family and religion, run away with you, but you didn’t want to run away with him.

I suffered a lot more than that. I went through physical and verbal abuse with my own parents with regards to him. There were days, that I couldn’t walk from the physical abuse. I went through mental stress from my parents and then him.I fought so much with my parents, that eventually my parents gave in saying if I love this boy so much, they want to see him. But they will ask about his job and how him. (This was back in high school). I never expected for him to hurt me, by cheating on me and then behaving so cruel towards me. Especially when he knew what all I faced with my parents for him. I kept my distance from my cousins and my parents. Eventually, I decided to keep the relationship a secret, until the day he graduates which was within 1 year.

When it came to physical intimacy he was prepared to convince me for years. He couldn’t wait 1 more year?

If he wanted to run away from his family and religion, why did he leave me? All I asked him was to wait till he graduates which is 1 more year. Why couldn’t he do that?

I never said I was not prepared to run away with him. I told him to at least graduate and then we can tell our parents. If they reject after, then we can decide. I even told him I am prepared to live in the basement with him, to start off. He knew he had no job and I knew I had no job and no education. (He also wasn’t talking about running away now, he wanted to run away if his parents didn’t agree, according to his plan he wanted to tell them once, his intention of being with me [without giving them the time to register everything] if they disapproved he wanted to run away) (He knew it was impossible to run away now).

What does his parents know about me? They only know me as the girl who made the fb post. He told me he will explain to them about what happened. Did he ever explain anything to them? What else do they know about me? What do they know about our relationship? Whatever his parents know about me is all assumptions or new they get from their family friend. My parents rejected back in high school. 1) Because we are young, they thought it was our immaturity and not love 2) they even said he will be the boy who would use me physically and throw me away 3)he is of a different religion. That’s all my parents know about him. (Currently, he proved them right).

What I expected him to do was wait one more year. He waited for 10 years, he couldn’t wait 1 more year? All of a sudden his love for me vanished? His dedication and the wait vanished? All of a sudden his family and his religion became dear to him? He didn’t go through half of what I went through.

When he told me his father was yelling at him. It wasn’t because of the relationship. His father was yelling at him for not doing a good job in the family business. And for not doing a good job in the Muslim organization.

Back in 2016, he told me his dad hit him for talking to me. Now he is telling me, he lied about that incident. And that incident never took place.

And the reason I constantly fought with him, is because of him cheating on me. He never could admit he cheated on me. He would think, it is okay to do such a thing, by involving another girl. And taking her to a mosque and telling her he loves her. For me, the mosque is a holy place and to tell someone you love them infront of a mosque, when you don’t is sick. I fought with him, because he let me beg her for him. If he loved me, how can he sit and watch me beg for him infront of someone else. I told her I love him and I told her the bond I shared with him. And she didn’t care. I fought with him because he would send me pictures of water droplets on his face and he would say he is crying and later say its water droplets. I fought with him because he saw I was losing my sanity and he did not stop. If I see him cry, I would stop whatever it is I am doing, that causes him pain. Did he do the same for me? No. 1 whole year he drove me insane saying he loves her/ does not love her. He saw me cry day in and out. I stopped functioning like a normal human being and I expressed how I felt to him. That girl, would send me snaps of their conversation, where I found find he is flirting with her. That’s why I fought with him. Because it was a sick game for him. 1 year it took him to realize, what he did was immature. If he had an issue he could have simply talked it out with me.

And I was getting pressure from my parents since day 1 of the relationship First stress and pressure was to end the relationship. Second stress and pressure were other proposals. I stood my ground for 10 years with my own parents. When I felt the pressure and stress, I would talk to him about it. I would never keep it to myself. If he felt the pressure and stress, he would have talked it out with me. He never told me what all his parents said with regards to our relationship. Instead, he kept saying he is afraid of losing me, afraid I will change my mind because of my parents. And I reassured him I am not going anywhere. When I told him I am scared of losing him to his parents, he said he won’t deceive me. Where did his word go now?

if he was able to wait for 10 years, he couldn’t wait 1 more year? He started to distance himself from me, what happened to his love for me now? It just vanished?

The times he wanted to get physical, I felt guilty for doing it in our parents home. I told him I want to wait until we get our own home. If he was owned by his parents, why didn’t he feel the guilt? Instead, he told me it’s his bedroom so it’s okay. He was prepared to convince me for 5 years, that it is okay.

He was so confident about everything, went as far as to call me his wife. What happened to all that? If he had the least bit of feelings for me, how can he wake up and not feel pain of the relationship ending?  He wasn’t the only one under pressure and stress. We waited for 10 years. Actually, the wait wasn’t even 1 year now. April 5, 2019, he said he is going to return as a better person for our relationship.  8 months. He needed to hold on for 8 months, by then he will graduate. What happened to his love for me?

He even slapped me, when I refused to agree to the breakup. If he loved me dearly, how can he slap me? His only explanation for that was he was going insane.

How can he flaunt a proposal he got with everyone? If he felt any sort of pain from ending the relationship, how can he flaunt a proposal he got? How can he stay away from me?

Back in high school, from parents pressure when I said to end things, I knew I love him and I knew I couldn’t stay away from him, despite what my parents said. Then if he really loved me, how is he staying away from me and saying it is okay?

His own cousin convinced her parents that she wants to marry a hindu boy. Their marriage took place in December 2018. He told me he felt nothing seeing their interreligious marriage work successfully. Around September 2017 a family friends daughter wanted to marry a hindu tamil boy. He recorded the entire conversation of what her parents were saying about her. Eventually, the parents who were against agreed to her choice of a boy. What happened to his love? How can he just wake up one day and completely give up? That too without even trying. I would understand if he tried and it didn’t work. But we didn’t even try.

He attended their engagement party around March 2018, sent me pictures. And said we will be there one day. And then when he attended their reception in April 2019, he said he felt sick.

His parents recently got a $2.4 mill house, he is now working in his family business with his dad and he saw he would get a good proposal from reputed ppl because of his dads status. He eventually wants to take over the family business, which is currently the fasted growing company in Canada (Top 500). And just like that, his love for me vanished.

When I had the same offer, I never fell for it. If I would have taken the offer, I would have been a doctor by now, married to a doctor. My parents would easily be retired and settled back in India. For him, I didn’t and couldn’t accept the offer because I loved him so much.

I always told him, if we worked hard, we would also reach the same height our parents are at. If not better. He kept guiding with a promising future and what did he do in the end?

When it came to me, how could he take up such an offer?

Why didn’t he realize his fathers power over him, for the 4 years we were in high school?

Hi Mark,

That’s what I find funny. He did not leave me based on ONE facebook post. The Facebook post happened in 2013. Even after the Facebook post, he still gave me access to all his accounts. We met when we were 13/14, we are now 23/25 (He turned 25 recently).

And that’s what I cannot understand. How did he just change quickly overnight? October 19, 2018, he waits exactly at midnight to send me a paragraph of how much I mean to him. October 20, 2018, he wants to break up. And he is instantly cold towards me.

I am not idolizing him. I feel pain and I still love him, which makes me upset with myself. I am in love with a guy who was able to shut his feelings off for me, overnight. And I do not know how to move on as he did.

After April 29, 2019 he has never even attempted to contact me to see if I am okay. This just tells me, he no longer feels anything for me. He is extremely happy with his life, cruising through it with a breeze. And I am still crying, devastated by the whole ordeal. And I am still trying to make sense out of everything. I have so many questions, but he refuses to answer any of it. The last message he sent me was to not disturb him or his family. To go separate ways and to not get involved in each other’s lives.

If he loved me truly, how is he so cold towards me? And no pain.

I had parents pressure too. I even told him to break up because of it, back in high school. When he replied back to not leave him and we will make things work. To have faith. I never proceeded to hurt him further.

Who am I to blame for the relationship ending without any closure?

And I am aware in our 20s we change alot. I asked him if I did any mistake that he wants to end the relationship abruptly. He then said you did everything you can, it’s not you, it is me. (I have no idea what to make out of this statement). I even offered to speak to his parents. He said if it was back then he would have supported me. But now he sees only his parents pain, so I can try but he won’t be on my side. (So what happened to his love?). Did I miss the chance? Can love just vanish from pressure and stress?

He told me his mom said if I was really that serious I would bring my parents. But he told me his mom would only say no. I did not want to get my parents involved to have them insulted.

The relationship ended, because of me? Because I didn’t speak to his parents earlier when he was on my side and because I didn’t agree with his plan of running away as soon as we tell our parents?

He used to tell me, he feels like himself the most with me. Was that a sugar-coated lie, that he fed me for all these years? He even told me he could tell me anything and everything. After he returned from his trip from India around December 2018, he told me how his cousins smoke weed and they drink alcohol (which is not permitted in Islam).

I asked him why he gave me hope, by telling me about his cousin who married a Hindu boy back in 2018. He said it was a habit to tell me everything and anything. I told him, you told me everything, except how you feel about our relationship and me? To which, he changed the topic.