Dear Adalie:

Two months and a week since you posted last. How exciting to read from you again!

“I feel like my partner is not for me and he isn’t going to change. It’s always going to be the same thing over and over”- is it time to leave him, the one you refer to as your partner, regardless of Jake, independent of Jake?

🤍 Anita

Dear Adalie:

“I don’t know what happened still from that night.”- maybe what happened was what you wrote back on May 8, when you started this thread, 5th sentence:

“I trusted him and let it happen.”-

It’s devastating to trust someone to stay.. and then he disappears. You want to know why.. what really happened, but no answers 😔

Anita

You feel used, I think..?

I wish he talked with you.

So, he didn’t block you.. just didn’t reply to you, ignored you all this time? (I forgot.. how many times did you reach out to him?)

Dear Adalie:

A new member, BAI, posted in another thread this morning regarding a relationship breakup and the person not moving on: “It seems that this person’s presence is teaching you the final lesson you must face: love and separation. What may be difficult to accept is not necessarily that she has started a new relationship, but that you are still held back by the belief that you were not enough—that if you had been better, you might have returned to her side sooner in a new role. Is that how you feel…?”-

As I read it, I thought it’s true to my attachment to my mother, it’s hard for me to separate emotionally from her because I am still held back by the belief that I was not enough, that if I had been better, she and I would have been close and together.

Then, when I looked at your recent post/ thread, I was wondering if that’s what keeps you emotionally attached to this guy.. believing that you were not enough, that if you had been better, the two of you would be together..?

🤍🌿 Anita