Hi,

I think the guy is controlling. At least on the inside. And your therapist is wrong ~ you had nothing to apologize for ~ believe it or not, you did nothing wrong! This bears repeating ~ you did nothing wrong! An apology was optional, courteous, a nice thing to do. But not mandatory!

Now he is punishing you for being busy, having a life, for him being jealous. It is no accident he picked someone much younger. Now he sees that you are your own entity and that bothers him a bit!

I know I sound harsh, but you have entered dangerous emotional grounds here. Oh my goodness, what will happen when you want to go on a weekend away, visit your sick mother, take a class on the weekends, feel tired, or sick yourself? Or, more rarely, if your cell phone dies or you’re caught in a storm?

I would tell him you’re taking a break. I know he’s trying to work through it but this bothers him a little too much for the “crime”, don’t you think?

• This reply was modified 10 years, 6 months ago by Inky.