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    Inky
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    Hi Lexiis,

    This is my gut feeling after reading your post: I don’t think he was cheating ~ I do think he liked having an admirer/groupie. A fan club. An option. An ego boost. Yes, it is very possible he likes the girl and that he was playing you both. But only in his mind. Know what I mean?

    Anyway, let him “have” her. She “won”. But only because you dropped out of the game once you found out there was one. So what will happen is he will chase you and/or then will go to her, but she will dump him once she sees no one else is having him.

    So dump him because the overall thing was tumultuous. The texting/FB/SnapChat fan-girl chalk up to a mental eyeroll provoker.

    • This reply was modified 10 years, 9 months ago by Inky.
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    Sam
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    I too dated a guy (for 4-1/2 years) that liked having admirers. He would constantly flirt with girls or wouldn’t cut off contact with people I wasn’t okay with (like the girl that would call him at 3am or send him dirty song lyrics). I never thought he was cheating but it was still extremely disrespectful and I don’t think I fully realized that until a few months after our breakup.

    My advice to you, as someone who ended a relationship only 2 months ago, is cut off contact completely. Delete him from snapchat. You’re only torturing yourself by still having him on there. I still have questions of my ex (different one than above) but I’m slowly learning that I have to move on. I’m not going to get those answers even though I deserve them. You deserve someone who isn’t going to make you have doubts on whether or not they are cheating. I think it’s normal post relationship to stress about all those things (was he cheating, does he have a new g/f, etc – I do it too!) so be easy on yourself.

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