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  • October 10, 2018 at 6:25 am #230141
    Anonymous
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    Dear Charlie:

    Welcome back!

    Well, since you thought of this teacher as family, and Thanksgiving is around the corner, (and he lives alone, never married), why don’t you invite him for Thanksgiving with your family?

    anita

    October 10, 2018 at 10:46 am #230187
    Charlie
    Participant

    Thanks, Anita!! You’ve helped me think through so much in the past – I can’t believe you remember me 🙂

    And yes, I was thinking that too but wasn’t sure if that would come across as too needy or desperate since I haven’t been getting responses from him? But now that you’ve said what I was thinking, maybe it WOULD be a nice gesture, and he knows my whole family. Do you think an email asking this is fine, or should I ask via some other medium?

    October 10, 2018 at 11:11 am #230197
    Anonymous
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    Dear Charlie:

    You are welcome! If there is a more personal medium to invite him, better more personal. An invitation in the mail(a card maybe) and a follow up in person visit would be best, to make sure he got the card (that it didn’t get lost in the mail) and to let him know this way that you really are interested in him spending the holiday with you.

    anita

    October 10, 2018 at 11:20 am #230199
    Inky
    Participant

    Hi Charlie,

    It’s possible he had been having trouble with his old email and has a new one now!

    Inky

    October 10, 2018 at 12:28 pm #230213
    Charlie
    Participant

    Hi Inky, thanks for your response! I wondered that too, but I’ve been emailing him on his work email. Granted, he is an older man and likely isn’t the most tech savy. Even if it’s the right email, I support some older people take email with a grain of salt.

    I’m going to try that card and in-person visit idea, Anita. Thank you again for your stellar advice, as always!

    October 10, 2018 at 12:38 pm #230219
    Anonymous
    Guest

    You are welcome, Charlie. I hope to read from you about how this turns out.

    anita

    October 19, 2018 at 9:15 am #231855
    Tara
    Participant

    Hi,

     

    Why not just ask him what’s going on?  I agree with Anita that since he hasn’t been emailing that a nice notecard would be good.  Again, tell him you guys seem to be missing each other lately and you were wondering if anything was wrong or if he wanted to discontinue your correspondence for some reason.  I am all for being open and forthcoming and ASKING for the truth.  Because we can all sit here and speculate until the cows come home about why he stopped responding but the ultimate truth is you have no control over what he does and if he doesn’t respond to your earnest attempts to reconnect then you must realize it’s about him and not you.  And let go.  I think we all could use a little less overthinking lol.

     

    T;-)

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