@inky

Firstly, don’t think of introversion as being shy. Being introverted is more to do with social energy and comfort rather than being shy. For instance someone who is extroverted just gains more from social interaction than introverts who don’t need as much or none at all. I’m an introvert, but i’m not shy. I’m not trying to take away something you are familiar with, but its a common mistake people makes. They assume because they are shy that be extension they are introverts.

Onto your current issue. People come in and out of our lives. Whether for better or worst. I have heaps of experience in this matter. But something that is inherent in our social relationships is that we come together for a purpose. For instance what is the motivation between you and your friend? What connects the two of you together? People in sports teams might only be ‘friends’ because they are in the same team, not because they share mutual interests or experiences. Maybe you relationship has ended with this person because nothing is there anymore. It sucks, but this is what happens when you give a bunch of people unique and vastly different upbringings and make them share the same air. Eventually people want to do something else or move in another direction.

Being discarded is harsh, and i don’t know what i could say that would make you feel any better. What has happened has happened. Don’t let this make you regret ever getting to know her though. Or let it affect your future relationships. You have to go all in sometimes for what you want. And at the end of the day, if you have more wins than losses, than it must of been worth it. Don’t stop believing in others and trust those who you believe mean something to you. Just think of the good times, and move on with your life. Try to find someone else that you have a connection with.

If she recycles her friends, then it might be that she is more of a ‘user’ in the sense that she gains a lot from someone (emotional, physical or social benefits) and then once she finds someone else, she moves on. It could of been a one sided relationship and you were having so much fun, you were blinded by the reality. This is not your fault, shit happens.

Don’t see this as a ‘F’ on report card called life. Don’t think this makes you inferior or that you are setup for failure on the social front. People are ‘funny’ and unpredictable. It hurts, but at least you don’t have this person in your life dragging you down. Find someone who makes your life better who wants the same from you.

I hope this helps, if you want to say more, please write again 🙂
MAtty