I know it’s really easy to comment as an outsider, but somehow it just seems like overcomplicating things that one should try to “find” oneself. I mean, there you are. Not online and not found in some articles. I’m not against reading articles and talking with other people, but you have access to your authentic self every moment of every day. You just need to be honest.

I really don’t mean to be callous. Looking back at my own life, I’ve made things so very difficult myself, when what I should’ve done was to allow myself to have a natural relationship with the world. I overcomplicated everything. Now I find myself trying to simplify and declutter as much as possible so that there is more room left for actually living.

Allowing life to connect directly with your heart as opposed to thinking what you think about life and what you think about yourself.

Thanks everyone.

Hi Caring guy @gg0319

I would like to give you a big kick in the bum with my perspective for this weekend. Are you ready for the challenge ? Other TB mates, please feel free to offer more tasks to our friend Caring guy with thanks. @talkingwithtinybuddah @inky you can offer some great tasks here.

SCENE: RAINY WEEKEND and CARING GUY

1. Pick up some nice CDs or songs on iTunes and play them reasonably loud in your room but be kind to the neighbours with the volume.

2. Clean the whole room (your home)- dust, vacuum, mop, put clothes away, wash clothes that need washing, iron clothes that need ironing, wash all dishes or chuck them into the dishwasher, clear up the clutter in the pantry or kitchen, rearrange your furniture if need be etc. It should be light and bright at the end of this weekend.

3. Have a nice warm shower, change into fresh clothes and put on a nice perfume, which takes your fancy. Be the best looking bloke you can be but don’t go overboard with tuxedo and all 🙂

3. Make a beautiful brunch for yourself or go out for a date with YOURSELF. Look at the passerbys and soak in the rainy smell off the ground. Look at some kids, women, dogs, food, what others are doing in the café etc

4. Make an appointment to have a whole body massage 1-2 hours. Pick a nice ambience for the massage if you can.

5. At the end of the day, come back to your heavenly abode and make a nice cuppa or even a hot chocolate with strawberry marshmallows (you can choose vanilla if you want). Sit in front of a screen and watch a comedy. No romantic or sad movies pls. Just comedies or stand up comedy stuff. There are heaps on you tube.

6. Time to retire after a light dinner. Light up some candles in the room and soak in the ambience. Take a piece of paper or a notebook and write down 50 things, which have gone great in life. For example: I am 4 limbs, I can breathe, I can wash my teeth, I can eat and swallow, I can write, I have internet etc. Just 50 things. Fold this paper away and keep it under your pillow.

7. While sitting on your soft and cuddly bed, say a prayer to yourself: “Thank you for such a lovely day with myself. I am at peace. I feel loved by myself. I would like to thank everyone in the nature or environment for making my day such a blessing in the rain. The atoms, cells, particles, trees, rain, sand, food, bed, water etc etc, You get the drill.

Next day

Finish up all the things that you couldn’t do yesterday and repeat points 6/7 atleast.

Wah lah, whole weekend is gone in a buzz….where did the time go ?

ACTION, ACTION, ACTION time my dear friend. Stop the self pitying. It aint helping anyone else on this TB and worst of it all, it aint helping YOU.

Blessings,

Jasmine

@gg0319

HI Caring Guy

Are you ok ? All limbs working and in order ? Did you get medical attention to ensure all good ?

Look, I am sorry about the accident and your car.

If I were you, I would look at this as a big sign from the Universe. Things are good for you as it is….you just need to make them better for yourself and stop sitting on the negative emotional roller coaster ride.

Sending you loads of positive energy and may you take an action for the Caring guy to move forward finally.

J

How old are your kids? Are they adults that want space, or minors (who speak through the mother that they want space)? If they are adult children saying this, then the car accident was a sign. If they are minors then the car is another time delay between you and seeing them. I don’t like how many people in your life are saying that YOU need to work on yourself, that they need a break from YOU. And you’re buying it? Unless it’s abuse (physical, substance, emotional) something else is going on here.

I stand by what I said before:

1. “GF, I am devoting my energies to my kids. See ya.”
2. “Listen to me Girls, I’m your Father!”