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October 17, 2025 at 8:00 pm #451019
anita
ParticipantI don’t know, me. I wish you and her had a direct line of honest, straightforward communication..
October 17, 2025 at 8:47 pm #451020me
ParticipantShe’s too far away. Personally I don’t care if she did hang out with a bunch of dudes and have a bitchy attitude, it’s all hearsay and all that matters is how she acts towards me, which is the total opposite. Maybe she was just not into them the way they wanted her to? Who knows. I mean I did tell her I was just playing with her and knew wee wont see eachother ever again but she said nooooo and that there are ways we can see each other still and even if I dont see her where she is she will come to me and if she was rich things would be easy. Taiwanian girls throw all the hints at you and expect the guy to make the first move. I mean I already did tell her I liked her, and it was in for 30 hrs but it was not a “read” message, she likely saw it on the notifications.
Btw I don’t just sit and wait for her, I talk to other women too. I need to see and speak to them, just a must for me. I’ll still try and see this girl and have some intense short times with her but that’s all it will be. Like a month long “thing”, until the next time.
October 17, 2025 at 9:02 pm #451021anita
Participant“Taiwanian girls”- think of her outside the box of a Taiwanese girl.. just a girl who happens to like a boy (you)?
Maybe?
October 17, 2025 at 9:11 pm #451022me
ParticipantStill unclear if she likes me or not, no official “I like you”.
October 18, 2025 at 7:50 am #451035anita
ParticipantDear me:
“I mean I did tell her I was just playing with her and knew we wont see each other ever again but she said nooooo and that there are ways we can see each other still and even if I don’t see her where she is she will come to me and if she was rich things would be easy… Still unclear if she likes me or not”-
Me, it’s right above, in this quote: clearly she liked you when she said the above. Also clear that you pushed her away (telling her that you were just playing with her, that you’ll never see each other again)
You then wrote: “I mean I already did tell her I liked her, and it was in for 30 hrs but it was not a ‘read’ message”- did you send her this message after you told her that you were only playing with her.. what did you actually say to her in that message?
🤍🌿 Anita
October 18, 2025 at 12:12 pm #451049me
ParticipantOnly pushed her away because she’s leaving and I doubted at the time we would see eachother.
I said that I liked her more then I should considering we will be a million miles apart. Waited 30 hrs and deleted it as it did not say “read” but notifications pop up.
October 18, 2025 at 8:43 pm #451052anita
ParticipantMaybe she is confused. Maybe she is hurt. Maybe she hoped that you would give her a clear message?
October 18, 2025 at 9:09 pm #451054me
ParticipantI dunno but using AI chat bots to also help decode things tells me she’s really into me. I’m used to western things, hearing things like “come home with me” a few times on her last day and her I miss you text and the one about hoping to see me again confuses me as a westerner when talking about how a Taiwanese culture is. Not even close to the same. She’s about her culture as she gave everyone cookies as a gift on her last day with hand written notes (which is a normal thing).
Also I told her I liked her before I said I was joking and I know we will never see eachother again.
October 18, 2025 at 9:17 pm #451055anita
Participant“I know we will never see each other again.”- why this certainty.. I don’t understand..?
October 18, 2025 at 9:41 pm #451056me
ParticipantI figured it was just going to be just text based, she was talking about visiting other places and we were just “friends”, plus no money and no passport and how lazy I am. Plus why would she wanna see me again? If you want fun times then sure.
October 18, 2025 at 9:58 pm #451057anita
Participant“and how lazy I am”- meaning.. ?
“Plus why would she wanna see me again? If you want fun times then sure.”- There’s more to you than just “fun times”. I know, because I’ve been talking with you for years. There’s a lot more to you than a performance for the pleasure of others.
There’s.. (take it from here, if you will)
October 19, 2025 at 4:16 pm #451064me
ParticipantJust means I am lazy.
Anyway she messaged me, she’s still here and she’s still here until early November, wants me to travel to her but let her know I’m working all the time so I can get the money to travel.
October 19, 2025 at 7:21 pm #451065anita
Participant“She’s still here”- I didn’t know. I thought she’s in Asia. So, she’s still in Canada?
“wants me to travel to her”- how far is she from you?
October 19, 2025 at 7:35 pm #451066me
ParticipantShe’s still in Montreal, we been texting for a good 4 hours about ourselves and was being direct. Said she gets lonely, let her know she can talk to me and about traveling together when I see her and when she comes back here.
October 19, 2025 at 8:58 pm #451068anita
ParticipantI think you’re on the west side, 3 hours from Montreal? Why can’t you, or won’t you meet her at Montreal?
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