Good Tues morning, me!

me, Nov 17: ” I assume she’s not that interested in me anymore.”

me, Oct 17: “I did tell her I was just playing with her and knew we won’t see each other ever again, but she said nooooo and that there are ways we can see each other still and even if I don’t see her where she is she will come to me and if she was rich things would be easy”-

Back then, she seems to have been clear and straightforward about being interested in you (as a friend? A boyfriend?)

Seems like there’s been a push-pull dynamic on your part..? Maybe on her part as well..?

A month ago (Oct 17), I wrote to you: “I wish you and her had a direct line of honest, straightforward communication..”

I still say the same 😊

🤍 Anita

Dear me:

I wasn’t thinking much about the future with her. I was thinking about your future communication with potential romantic interests, thinking that practicing honest, direct, straightforward, simple communication will work for you 😊

🤍 Anita

For whatever it’s worth.. I like you me, I always did.

🤍 Anita

Dear me:

My guess is that she was hurt by the push-pull theme behind your behavior with her, and hurt people sometimes turn angry. Angry, she withdrew. Maybe she is trying to make you care by staying quiet (I don’t know, of course).

It occurred to me yesterday, and I refreshed my mind about the topic this morning (I am curious about what you think about it) that the pattern of push and pull fits the anxious-avoidant (also called fearful-avoidant) attachment style, sometimes called disorganized attachment. It’s a style rooted in both yearning for love and fear of being hurt.

In general, Key Features of Fearful-Avoidant Attachment (online source):

* Push-pull dynamic: You crave intimacy but feel overwhelmed when it gets too close, leading to withdrawal.

* Fear of rejection: Even when someone shows genuine interest, you struggle to believe it’s real.

* Emotional ambivalence: Oscillating between wanting love and fearing it, creating hot-and-cold behavior.

* Difficulty trusting: Past experiences often make you scared of being vulnerable, so you protect yourself by pulling back.

* Longing for connection: Despite the fear, the desire for closeness never goes away, which fuels the cycle of returning after withdrawal.

I wonder if you ever thought about attachment styles..?

🤍 Anita

Dear me:

I hear you loud and clear: you’re done with this woman and with this thread!

I am looking forward to your next 😊

🤍 Anita

Dear me aka ladies man 😊

Can’t-help-it-lol is so much like you, me..

So, when will you be talking on the phone for the first time..?

“Maybe”- depending on.. her motivation or yours? (I am Confused 😢.. but it could be too much Thanksgiving food, here, just south of you)