Hi Kaushaba,

I like Anita’s advice.

There are a few other little things to do to mitigate this.

1. In the dining hall boldly sit where they all are and say, “Of course I had a crush on X. Why should I be different than anybody else? Who at this table doesn’t love you, X?” Say with a wink and a smile. Meet each person’s eyes, glance at X and inconspicuously shake your head and roll your eyes.

2. Change the subject to what everyone will be doing after graduation.

3. Come up with a new story or rumor. Your grandmother’s illness. You’re stressed about student loan debt. Your HS boyfriend want to move in with you after graduation and you don’t know what to do. So if someone is still hung up on your confession they will look like an idiot because you are handling a true Crisis right now.

4. Pull each person in the friend group aside individually and privately and say that after your confession there are a lot of untrue stories and versions of how it happened going around. Tell them the boring true short version. “After four beers I told X I had had a crush on him. That’s about it.”

5. OWN the dining hall! Sit where they are. If you get weird looks say, “You’re still talking about that? Wow, that’s old news. That crush was archaic. Think Freshman Year. What have you been telling them, X?”

Good Luck,

Inky

• This reply was modified 9 years ago by Inky.
• This reply was modified 9 years ago by Inky.