Inky,

Consider that human relationships are always dynamic and our interactions with each other are combinations of different personalities, different moods, past events, etc. In order to allow a situation to escalate, it requires both parties to continue reacting in certain ways.

There are always certain people who complain that there is so much drama in their life and they don’t understand how it keeps following them. I do 🙂 To an outsider it can be pretty obvious why it happens and why things always escalate. Every time you get a chance to react to something, you have a choice on how you’ll behave. Sure, you might say that you’ve “done nothing” and been civil, but you know it and I know it and every woman on earth knows it, that you can be “civil” and incredibly catty at the same time.

If you call her crazy, she knows how you feel, and never ever in the history of women interacting has it gone down well when someone is called crazy 🙂 Playing the crazy-card will escalate everything like nothing else, because we know that all kind of behaviour can after that be justified as “crazy behaviour”. “She called me, she’s crazy.” “She blocked me, she’s crazy.” “She spoke with a mutual friend, she’s crazy.”

The past is in the past, but you could’ve let go now after she has blocked you, but you are keeping the drama alive. It’s not just her, but you also keep feeding into it. Of course your intuition is going to say that it’s not over, because for you, it’s not over. If you processed it, forgave her and forgave yourself and moved on, then I’ll bet you that your intuition would get a different vibe. Getting a bad vibe from something doesn’t mean that bad things are going to happen. We have a choice in how we want things to play out, regardless of initial vibes. If someone feels hostile towards us, if we grab onto that feeling and react to it with hostility, then a fight is going to happen. If someone feels hostile towards us, and we react to it with compassion and try to understand why the other person is in that state of mind, not only can we dissolve a potentially dramatic situation, but we can even change the way the other person feels.

…and don’t play that crazy-card! It’s not nice and will get you into trouble 🙂