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  • #236979
    Anonymous
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    Dear Cat:

    Good to communicate with you!

    You wrote: “I’ve always thought that if someone else is suffering then I need to suffer too”. Thing is, as you suffer, someone else believing like you do (and lots of people do) will be watching you suffer and say to themselves: Cat  is suffering, I need to suffer too. And then someone else will watch that someone suffering… you see my point?

    (If you are happy, and someone is seeing you happy, maybe he/she will say: I can be happy too!).

    I live  right under British Columbia, so we are.. almost close. By the way, I recently watched Queen, the movie, did you?

    anita

     

    #237095
    Anonymous
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    Correction, the movie is called Bohemian Rhapsody (not Queen)

    #240323
    Cat
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    It’s just gone for 4pm in Bristol. I’m using my housemates laptop to reply, coffee next to me and still in pjamas. I woke up around 10am today but was super super tired. I had some breakfast, coffee and spoke to my other housemate before she left to go to Spain (she’s gone for 3 days). I then went back to sleep, and woke up again around 3. Feeling very hungry, I ordered a veggie burger, chips, cake and milkshake online. Lazy, I know. But thought I’d do it as a one-off, just til I feel better. I am replying to you now, then having a bath, then doing some cleaning up and then practicing guitar.

    Yes, I do understand what you mean about suffering. I haven’t thought about it in that way before, but you are right…. And thinking about it, the people who inspire me to help end suffering, and to campaign against issues aren’t actually suffering. They are/ were people who were in a position to speak out and campaign against things because they could.

    I think this core belief comes from my upbringing for sure, as I watched my parents suffer. But because they were suffering, they made us believe that we had to suffer too (and ensured that we did) yet also feel sorry for them etc etc. And a lot of the time put the blame of their suffering on to us. Yes, this is definitely where this core belief comes from!!!

    Band practice last Friday went well!! We actually played the songs together, and well! We ran through both songs and nailed them in 40 minutes. Then spent the last hour and 20 minutes trying to record them on the 4-track. Although the recordings weren’t great due to the place it was positioned in the room… I got a recording on my phone, and this is keeping me inspired. The plan is to have another practice next Friday, and get some recordings done then. And then we can send them to the people interested in drumming. And then we will be sorting drummer try-outs!!

    It feels like this is a dream coming true (as lame as that sounds). But we have a strong image, name, sound, and I know that if I’m able to put alot of energy and effort in to this, then I think we will be great…. It’s a new feeling though. As I never thought I would be good enough to be in a band. Or ever have the ability or confidence to do it… I know to a lot of people it would be like “but thats so easy, why is that a dream”. As i know there are people doing things far more extravagant. I don’t know. I guess for me, I’ve been so used to not taking control of my life. Of just living to work, not eating properly, hiding away. But now I’m taking steps to build and live the life that I want to – and to feel like I deserve that. And for me to really believe in myself and to believe I deserve that…. Well. I think it’s the biggest mindset challenge/ core belief/ life perspective that I have had to challenge so far. Can’t describe it really…. Let me know if you can relate to this.

    British Columbia looks beautiful!! How is life for you Anita?

    I haven’t watched Bohemian Rhapsody yet but I have heard good things!

    Cat

    #240335
    Anonymous
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    Dear Cat:

    My  life today is about Thanksgiving, the major holiday in the US for non-religious folks, and talking about food (you mentioned a veggie burger, chips- which means fries in US English- cake and milkshake), I will be having Cornish hens & turkey legs  (not a vegetarian, are you?), cranberries and stuffing, yeast roles hot out of the oven and apple/ blackberry crisp.

    Your band dream is exciting, it has been exciting for you from the  beginning, since  you first shared about it. This is why I thought the movie would interest you, it being about a band.

    Regarding suffering, yes, I agree.

    And my aim is to not suffer today as I am about to take a walk next in the fresh, cold air, lots of trees around, nature.

    anita

    #268861
    Anonymous
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    How are you,  Cat?

    anita

    #270103
    Cat
    Participant

    My dear Anita,

    Apologies again that my replies have been far between. Still no laptop, and I am avoiding trying to use my housemate’s mac as much as possible. She doesn’t mind, but we borrowed it a lot over the past few months, and so now trying to not use it as much. There is a library down the road, so I am going to start using that!!

    In reply to your last message about thanksgiving: yes I am a vegetarian!! I was vegetarian from the age of twelve – my best friend did an insane job at converting us all!! I went vegan when I was 18 for a year. Although I was not a healthy vegan. Then, I went through a period where I did not want my identity to be so attached to my diet, so ate meat again (so I understand what you mean when you talk about the turkey and cranberry combination). I was then flexetarian for a few years, mainly eating vegetarian food, buying vegan but eating meat sandwiches when stressed…. And now I am back to being vegetarian now. I have also found out recently that I am gluten intolerant! So I am being more careful about what I eat.

    Today:
    It’s 12.39 here in Bristol, I’m in my pj’s, sat at my housemates desk writing this. We’ve had intense rain for the past few days, so the ground is wet but the sun has started to shine now. Her room is at the front of the house, so I can hear all the cars going past, and I can see the sunlight peeping in from under the blinds 🙂 I have my second coffee next to me. After I’ve written to you, I am going to have a shower/bath, get ready and then head in to town. I got paid yesterday so picking up some christmas presents and getting bits and bobs, and then meeting up with a friend later.

    In terms of how I’ve been. – Generally, well, better, growing.

    I realise that it must’ve been about a year since I first posted on here!! A year that we have been talking. And I’ve been thinking about how much has changed, how much my life has changed throughout that year, and the fact that our conversation has continued all throughout that. It’s beautiful. Thank you for always being there.

    Obviously you know where I’ve come from, and you’ve seen me on my journey, so I think you can understand me when I say: I continue to realise things about myself each day. Maybe this is normal? But I think, as people who were quite neglected from family, their personality goes unrecognised and undeveloped. Which is why now I think I am realising a lot of things about myself . -even small things like I don’t like tomatoes!!!!

    Not much has happened over the past few months. I have continued working, been organising viewings for a new housemate. Our first housemate moved out in October, we had a 2nd one move in to her room but then she moved out last weekend!! We have just picked a 3rd new housemate, so hopefully this is 3rd time lucky!!

    Work is going well, I am lucky to have a very very selfless manager who is 30, and extremely fair. He has been so supportive, and I feel like I am part of such an inclusive and welcoming team. We had a christmas party yesterday, for all the residents. It was lovely. So much effort went in to it, and we even had donkeys with reindeer antlers on!! Was lovely to see all the residents and their families there. Alot of care and love and great people in that place.

    I have more to say on the topic of love, families, closeness, trust, acceptance, friends, encouragement, motivation, belonging, goodness, expression, art, being in control of what I feel inside and what I communicate/express etc. But I feel like that’s a longer message we can discuss after this one 🙂 🙂 Would love to hear your thoughts?

    How are you this festive season my friend? I would love to hear everything.

    Love Cat x

    #270157
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Cat:

    I just typed a whole  post to you and lost it, you know how it feels…?

    Well, I will repeat  what I wrote and  try to  get over my  frustration of  losing the  post. When you described your experience of a short while ago I got the feel of it,  the rain, the sun coming through, your coffee, getting ready. It is 7:45 AM here, no longer dark, but  no visible sun. There may not be a visible sun today, I don’t think there was yesterday. And that  is okay with me. I remember fondly the first time I encountered this weather, it was London and I was your age. Still love this weather!

    Regarding diets, I too was a vegetarian and at times a vegan. I remember the  ten days fast I went on in the early nineties, it was the cleansing madness years. Ten days of drinking apple juice with psyllium husks mixed in it. I was supposed to smell like apples following  the fast, nothing  but fruity,  did not happen.

    Yes, what a difference in your writing since the beginning  of your thread, what progress you made, what improvement of your mental health, a delight to witness it here, really is! And I hope to keep witnessing your progress, keep doing what works for you, keep at it.

    And don’t worry about the timing of your replies or posts, anytime you write is a  good time.  A pleasure to read from you!

    anita

    #270757
    Anonymous
    Guest

    M  E R R Y    C H R I S T M A S,    C A T   !!!

    anita

    #272509
    Cat
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Sorry this is late. MERRY XMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

    How was your xmas/new years?

    Yes, writing out long replies and losing them has happened to me MANY times!!! I feel the frustration. Now I tend to write the reply in a document then copy and paste it over.

    How many times have you been to the UK? And how did u find London??

    That apple juice diet sounds mental!!! I still struggle with buying /cooking food but that is one of my goals for this year.

    Cat xoxo

    #272545
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Cat:

    I visited London a few times, best was  the first visit, a very touristy visit where I used the underground very well to get  to all the touristy locations,  including north of London. Last visit it was too rainy. Grey is okay with me,  I like that about London, but rain.. that literally rained on my parade. I loved the  Indian food/  restaurants, that was were I discovered Indian food. Loved the parks, so very green. And the grey, nice to not suffer under a scorching sun.

    Thank you for your good wishes!

    anita

    #276791
    Cat
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    I do love London when I go there! There is something about how renowned it is that really appeals me and I love the way of life. I used to love it more when I was younger. But I know how expensive it is to live there!! The underground is my favourite 🙂 🙂

    At the moment I am still saving to pay back some debt, but I am getting there! At christmas the bank turned my overdraft in to loan credit, which means I am actually paying it back now! Small steps but progress is being made. Right now, my life is: Bristol, seeking stability in my job and coming to terms with the path that I am on – nursing care, developing my style – including punk patches and black lipstick, band practice and writing songs, practicing guitar, and seeing friends. Yes, I am Bristol-bound, but creating and building something is keeping me going.

    How are you? What have you been up to?

    Cat x

    #276867
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Cat:

    Congratulations for turning your overdraft to loan credit and persisting with paying off your debts and seeking stability in your nurse care career. I have a visual  of you with black lipstick. Your Bristol-bound life reads good to me!

    I am up to healing my three-week injured foot/ankle, limping. I will believe that I can walk again like I used to, when it happens, it’s been so long.

    anita

    #277843
    Cat
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Thank you 🙂 How did you injure your ankle?

    Cat

    #277869
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Cat:

    I dropped a tree on my foot and it got twisted in the process. How does a tree get dropped on a foot, one may wonder. Well, following a wind storm in the wooded area where I live, trees fall, parts of or whole trees. I carried one fallen tree, then tried to place it vertically against other trees (to eventually be used for fire in the woodstove), but the operation failed. I have my foot elevated as I type this.

    anita

    #280717
    Cat
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    I’ll reply properly to your previous message in a couple of days…

    Right now, my heart feels very heavy. And the one thing I can think to help with this is reaching out to you.

    I have a friend, who I’ll call Georgia, who lives in Ireland. I’ve known her for nearly 2 years. She’s really creative, in a band and a massive inspiration to me. All the time I’ve known her, she has had an abusive relationship with a guy. They’re always on/off. She opened up to me last night and told me how he treated her. Physically abusive. Telling her to commit suicide etc.

    It’s so so so awful. I’m trying to support her best I can. But hearing about it all last night has left me feeling sad, heavy heart and depressed this morning. It’s triggered memories of stuff I’ve seen/been through.

    Please could you think of a way that I can support her, but not experiencing this depression at the same time? It’s so hard. I have things to do today, but I feel guilty living such a good life, knowing what she’s going through.

     

    Cat

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