Yes, this is emotional abuse. It’s classic manipulative behavior. He is trying to see how many times he can say “jump” and you will actually do it. I dated someone exactly like this, and it destroyed my self esteem to the point where I developed an eating disorder because I couldn’t be thin enough for him to stop making fat jokes. He will suck you dry of all happiness, and you’ll believe something is wrong with you and that if you could just change this or that then he will finally approve. Newsflash: he will never approve. He will use you until he finds someone else to torture. Do yourself a favor and run.

Dear alexa05:

He needs to attend a boot camp of sorts, where he will be taught some manners.

He has to stop calling women that term: it may ruin his career, as a future medical doctor, if he addresses female patients, and female doctors, using that term.

I would put the relationship with him on pause until he attends the proper boot camp. Maybe you can put together such, for him and his friends, if they behave alike.

anita

Dear Alex,

This is definitely emotional abuse, and doesn’t come from a loving place in any way.  he will likely use emotional abuse and manipulation when/if you try to break up with him (and tell you things like nobody else will want you; you’re lucky that he put up with you, or make up other hurtful untrue things about you).  Regardless, better, sooner-than-later, to get away from him and rebuild your self-worth.  You deserve way more, skinny butt or not… 🙂   Good luck to you.