Hey. Let me return the favor of helping people out. Personally I have never struggled with my weight. While I had insecurities of not being curvy or having delicate hands, I eventually got over them. If your goal is losing weight, don’t do diet fads the way celebs do them. What works for one person may not work for you. Make small goals. Example: I’ll try to lose five pounds this week. Don’t restrict your diet, otherwise you might end up with a diagnosed eating disorder. Speak to your doctor about healthy options. Gaining weight? East as much carbs as you can. Fats too. Now that I gave you advice, I have good news. There’s an event where you can find your dream date. It’s in two weeks. There’s going to be snacks, wine, the works. Basically, it’s one of those social gigs where you can meet someone you’re attracted to.:-)

Well, if moderation makes you fat, then you might need to either check your definition of moderation or your definition of fat 😉

My personal thoughts on body acceptance is that it does not mean that “I now have to accept that I look like this for the rest of my life”. Nothing is permanent. I think of body acceptance as accepting what the reality is right now, and loving yourself anyway. Or at the very least not hating or shaming yourself. Because what good would that do? I think that the self-shaming can even cause overeating or binging in some people.

You can still have goals and you can strive to be what you want to be. You just have to be realistic about it; both in how it can be done and what will you achieve after you reach that goal. It requires focus and knowledge to change the eating patterns without getting obsessed or stressed about it. Stress makes losing weight much, much harder. Eating a hamburger on the go one night is not going to ruin a diet. The obsessive stressing about it might.

I don’t see anything wrong with striving for a particular type of body, if it is done with appreciation for the reality. Reality in what actually makes a person lose fat (because I’m assuming that’s what you want to lose, not just weight), reality in what is actually possible for you to do and reality in what losing that fat will mean (will you truly be satisfied after you reach your goal, or are you actually searching for some fulfillment that losing various amounts of body fat can never satisfy).

@jasmine-3 That’s a bit scary 🙂 Though I’m ready to accept all the flashy cars as gifts… 😛 I have read a bit of Osho’s writings and some of it has been helpful, but I’m not a fangirl. I am a bit skeptical of his character, which is why it’s scary if I sound like him! 🙂