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    Dimple
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    I have fallen in love with a married man and he too loves me most. He makes me feel awesome and he says that he loves me most. We are sharing this relation for past two years but he never told that he will marry me. My parents have searched a guy for me and my marriage is fixed. Now I feel I can’t leave without him and he told me that he will marry me now. My engagement was done with the guy which my family has selected but I don’t like him. I feel depressed thinking about my future with a guy whom I doesn’t love. I have discussed this with the man I loved and he says he will marry me in future if things goes wrong but I feel I don’t want to go away now and marry him. He was not ready to marry for past two years but now he says that he will marry me. I feel disturbed always and I think I wouldn’t be able to live with a man whom I don’t love but I don’t know what to do now. I don’t know what I am gonna do, I have my marriage in next one month and I feel I am so much disturbed mentally. While talking to the guy I feel irritated and I don’t enjoy his talks.

    #99360
    HippieChick
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    First point I’ll make is that a married man CAN’T marry you. Second, and this is based on your ability to do so depending on your cultural circumstances, make the decisions separately. Don’t marry the arranged man if you do not feel comfortable. Don’t marry a man that’s married and cheating with you for he’s very likely to do it to you as well. Search for a third option that’s a better all around fit.

    Just my opinion.

    #99404
    Anonymous
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    Dear Dimple:

    Please do not marry the man arranged for you to marry. It is very sad that you are told to marry a man. I know this is a social practice, convention, tradition but it is wrong for you as an individual. You will suffer and nothing good can come out of it. Children should not be brought to a marriage into which you enter disturbed and distress to start.

    Regardless of what happens with the man you are involved with (his marriage was also arranged…?) – don’t marry this man.

    This practice of arranged marriages is making me sad. Don’t make it your next tragedy!

    anita

    #99532
    Inky
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    Hi Dimple,

    In my distant family tree there were arranged marriages, but the woman had to like the guy!! One of them DID turn down fiancés, but the parents kept on trying! What were their alternatives? Can’t your parents introduce you to other potential fiancés? It’s not fair to you and it’s not fair to the guy. And the married guy doesn’t even matter for this issue. Could he get a divorce and marry you in less than a month? Probably not. Call off the engagement!

    Best,

    Inky

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