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  • September 10, 2016 at 5:05 am #114821
    Inky
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    Hi sbsudhan,

    I think a lot of single people feel this way of any sexual orientation!

    Is there a gay Match.com out there? I don’t know, but there has to be. Something beyond casual hookups!

    And as to “what’s wrong with you”. That’s an unanswerable question. Like, I felt like a freaking pariah in high school. But then I had loads of boyfriend/suitors in college. It wasn’t an Ugly Duckling thing. Pheromones? The environment? Who knows!

    I do believe there’s a lid for every pot. Keep looking!

    Best,

    Inky

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 8 months ago by Inky.
    September 10, 2016 at 8:07 am #114824
    Anonymous
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    Dear sbsudhan:

    You are a young gay man who is looking for a long term relationship with a man- that is your goal. Got to somehow let this goal be known to other gay men and choose from those with the same goal. Gay men who are interested in a long term relationship is your target group of people for your aim.

    You currently associate with straight men who have girlfriends- that is not your target group of people for your aim.

    Once you advertise your aim to the correct group of people, then go on dates with different men- coffee shop types of dates, no physical intimacy to begin with, so that you can learn who the person is before getting intimate. This way you can be objective as you evaluate the person.

    Your mind wanders a lot because you are afraid: afraid to never be in a relationship and afraid that if you will be in one, that it will not last. The way to deal with these fears, I believe, is to Aim at your target group and then slowly, gradually get to know (and be known) by this man and that man, over a period of time. In that time you can share your feelings with the man, including your fears and it will be the man who will empathize with you, share his own fears, try to comfort you- that may be your first long term/ lifetime boyfriend.

    anita

    September 10, 2016 at 7:15 pm #114877
    Livelovelifeeleni HappyMotivation, Advice, Outreach & LifeCoaching
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    Namasfe you are so beautiful congrats on being uits ok to be single because u knoe one person does not define the increible5 amazing person u are. U dont need a other half to feel fulfilled or admored, love yourself do wahtever makes u happy focus on it and crush on people or try new things hobbies places to meet people and if u qrent ready u cant controlmit give it time, u deserve happiness and ull beok fovus everydqy on what u can do and dont presure yourself. Single or notmyoull always be worthy a boss and amazing best of luvk to you beautiful person youll look back on thid and smile one day, struggles help us grow learn and be better and help pekple and u inspire people everyday in time he will come, the person that sees the boss gem u are and treats u with 100000 respect and everything uhope for, its learning experience and ull be ok hom. Muvh love Love Leni ♡Livelovelifeleni Positivity&Motivation ♡ PROUD OF U BEAUTIFUL SOUL WOOO U ROVK5 SLAY

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