Hi there, Diana!

I think I understand what you’re feeling. Some people are awe-inspiring with their confidence and abilities, which can create some feelings of inferiority in others.

How I learned to deal with it is to love, admire, and learn from these people and give them credit where credit is due. I respectfully tip my hat to them. At the same time, I must love and celebrate me, and be happy about all the things that make me uniquely ME. I respectfully tip my hat to myself. You are you, and perfectly so. What other people are or are not doesn’t take anything away from your awesomeness. No one can diminish you unless you allow it and you’re well on your way to not letting that happen.

It’s wonderful that this woman is in your life. She has qualities that you admire and value and you may choose to incorporate them into your own life, as long as it doesn’t compromise the essence of you. Look upon her as a teacher and be grateful for the lessons. (You may not be aware of it, but you will teach her something along the way, too.)

Hope this helps a bit.

With warm aloha,
Aliamanu

Hello Diana,
I know what you are talking about, mainly because I compare myself to people from school and wish I looked and act like them,but i’ve learned to accept who I am and love who I am. Yes I have a very low self-esteem at times but I get back up again just like you. I think you should think positively about yourself and not compare or think you’re any less then that woman you work with. You’re beautiful inside out and can do anything.

I hope this helped a bit or gave you motivation.

Celine.

Hi Diana,

I can somehow totally relate to how you’re feeling right now probably because a couple of years ago, I was in a very similar position to what you are in now. It was like this: I had taken up a new job, had a boss who was about ten years older to me and was super-successful in whatever she did (or so it seemed). She was beautiful, rich, talented and instantly likeable (everything that I wanted to be myself but wasn’t). And that put me in the dumps. I used to try to concentrate (unsuccessfully at most times) in office but got behind in my work, and started comparing myself with every single person I came across, in the real as well as virtual worlds. Each time I came onto facebook, I would see my friends enjoying themselves, traveling to exotic locales with their partners, partying away with food and drinks and everything else. The result – I started suffering from depression and retreated into my shell, feeling all alone and forlorn.

And then my mother was the only one who could break into it (thank God for that!). She taught me how comparison was the death of joy of any sort. She taught me how people will start automatically respecting you if you are content to be simply yourself and don’t try to compare or compete with the people around you. And last but not the least: She taught me how I should compare myself to myself, to see how much I’ve grown, what I’ve achieved and what progress I’ve made towards my goals. And this made my life simpler and me happier.

Hey Diana!

How about disciplining yourself to only think about work at work. Relieve stress by enjoying what life has to offer. I know I’ve felt like that before and I’ve just simply appreciated the things around me. You can also use it as motivation to shape your life into what you want it to be. Don’t forget we are what we think we are!