Hi Jasmine,

Thank you for sharing your story and I just wanted to say that you demonstrated incredible strength by leaving a toxic relationship whilst you were two months pregnant. Bassed on what you said, if you stayed you will have the support of your family and a job lined up for when you graduate but on the other hand you don’t want to stay in Alaska anymore. So it’s a battle in deciding what is logically best for you compared to what you feel you want to do.

As a suggestion, consider looking for a place that you want to move to, consider what is it about certain cities that attracts you, look for potential employment opportunities and take a trip down there for a visit before making any final decisions. If you have trouble deciding which cities to look for first, put together a list of things that are important to you (e.g. employment opportunities, average rent payment, availability of child care during work hours etc) before you start looking and you can easily cut the time by half.

I feel that if your heart have wanted to do this for two years, you should always make the attempt to follow it and see where it takes you. It maybe that during this process, you realised that you didn’t really want to move or that in order to move, you need to finish your degree and save up some money first or you find the perfect place you want to move to immediately. Instead of focusing on an outcome, just go on the journey and see where it takes you.

Hope that helps.

Hi Jasmine,

Life is long. I would accept the job and stay in Alaska. Then, in a few years, move after you’ve had your ducks in a row. This way you will never say, “What if I never took the job?” or “What if I never moved?” This way you can say, “I did it all!” 🙂

Another thing comes to mind. What if your ex never existed? Or what if he doesn’t exist now? (i.e. your baby came from the sky). How would you feel about yourself? How would you be living your life? Live and feel that way.

Blessings,

Inky