Hi All,

I hope someone has some words which will help and give me something to think about.

I recently split up with my boyfriend of 6 years (have been broken up for 2 months.) We had been on and off for a few years. This time we were completely honest with each other.

I found out he had slept with a colleague whilst we were together. I have accepted this now although I would like to know *why* he did it as I thought we were happy at this point.

Recently we broke up as he had met someone on Facebook. I was upset but I have taken this woman as a positive thing as something had to happen to change our relationship and I’m grateful for her for helping me realise I can live without him. They broke up after a few weeks and my ex and I have been sleeping together sporadically.

However now he wants to try hanging out as friends rather than sleeping together. This is what I wanted and I do want him back but I know we have to make a lot of changes in our relationship.

He is still in touch with this woman on facebook, how can I manage my feelings of jealousy? I know I have low self-esteem but this person is pretty, seems very nice and is also much younger (therefore at a different stage in life) than my ex so I don’t think I am jealous of her. I think it’s more that I’m scared the same thing will happen again if we were to get back in a relationship together. I can see where they have liked each others pictures and I know this is normal but I can’t help feeling a bit irked and annoyed by it.

How can I understand and manage my feelings better? I really want to overcome this, not even because we may get back together but because I want to be a happier person and be able to positively deal with any future feelings of this.

Thanks 🙂