Hi dantesinferno,

Don’t you see? You kicking your GF and infant out was exactly what your bio father in essence did. He rejected you. You reject them.

These aren’t self help books per se, but I like anything by Shmuley Boteach. By just reading his writings his duty to family and ethics rubs off on you.

You can give your bio dad a major “Eff You!” by BREAKING the cycle.

Clean up your act. Get clean. Be an integral part of your child’s life.

You can do this!

Blessings,

Inky

Dear dantesinferno:

“The glaring issue” that was pointed to you and that you saw is very significant.

You wrote that you don’t want more drugs to numb the pain and that you want to get to the root issues. I like getting to root issues. In that aim:

you wrote that your bio father left your mother and you when you were two. Did you have contact with him after that?

What did your mother tell you about your bio father throughout your childhood?

What was your relationship with your mother like in the past and now?

For as long as you are willing, I will persist with you here on this thread, in search for the root issues. Awaiting your answers.

anita