Dear Eriads:

I wonder if he is still active on Bumble and if he restarted activity there sometime after the two of you agreed to  become exclusive. Do you know and is there a way for you to find out if he is active there now?

It is a possibility that as much as he liked you and enjoyed your company he was also interested in other women/ other options. It may be difficult to imagine such interest, since the two of you had so much fun together, and since he seemed sincerely involved with you emotionally, but still, it is a possibility.

Let me know, if you will and we can continue to explore possibilities.

anita

Dear Eriads:

Well, let’s see.  He expressed to you distress over having a committed relationship (“a full blown relationship”) with you, you told him that you are okay with being friends, he relaxed and because he relaxed, he became closer to you, feeling relaxed enough to share more with you and reach out to you more. Then you took the being-friends-is-okay away from him (told him “that I couldn’t just be his friend anymore”)  and he became distressed again, immediately when you told him(“He  became very emotional and upset and was apologizing) and afterwards, not contacting you since Saturday.

I think the  explanation that makes sense to me is just that, he relaxed in the friends (with benefits) definition and distressed  with the full blown relationship definition.

I wonder  about friends without benefit, if that was or  could be  an option that will work for him and for you..

anita