Dear Lady Nadia:

I don’t see commitment issues in what you described above. An ex boyfriend cheated on you, a crush you had, and the interrogating trainer, none of these accounts show commitment issues on your part. As I understand commitment issues, it is when you are in a relationship and the other person want to be exclusive with you, or want to move in together or get married and you feel scared of being stuck in an exclusive relationship, or in a live-in situation, or in marriage.

???

anita

Dear Lady Nadia,

I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with sticking up for your values, which I feel is what you are doing. It sounds like when you describe “force me like: just do it, just for fun!”, that sounds like others are seeking a casual relationship or are pushing you out of your comfort zone. Why start a relationship with someone just out of lust or peer pressure, instead of true love?

There are plenty of fishes in the sea. If this one doesn’t suit you, you’re bound to find another one. It sounds like you’re not really into the trainer, so why push yourself further? When you’ve met someone you like (which you have before)….you will know it. Trust your gut instincts. 🙂

My approach is…we should learn to love ourselves first. Once we truly love ourselves, then we are bound to attract someone that truly appreciates us.

Good luck!
Jennifer