Mae,

It seems you already know the right thing to do, is that correct? You are aware this relationship is no longer healthy, you know that he JUST broke up with his girlfriend of TWO years and is emotional about it, and you know he is using you. I know you don’t want to lose him again and I know your relationships for the past three years may have been unfulfilling, but you finally have gotten the closure you needed: an apology. Getting sexually involved again was not the thing you needed, and you know this because you actually thought of your ex when you guys first almost hooked up!! Sexually and emotionally, you really don’t need him, and you got the apology you wanted.now you can completely, fully move on and fine someone who 1) Wants to date you because they are emotionally ready, not because they are rebounding 2) appreciates you for all that you are, doesn’t take you for granted, and respects you 3) doesn’t play games, doesn’t act selfish, and puts you first. You deserve all of this. You might be lonely, you may be feeling regrets, etc. But he is using you, and this is the truth. He is being selfish and doesn’t want the best for you. YOU DESERVE BETTER!! Tell him gently that you’d love to be in his life but cannot be involved romantically or sexually. Go spend time on YOU. Go out with your friends, stay home and take a relaxing bath, start a new hobby. Get your mind off him, invest in yourself, and the right man will soon come your way. If you believe you deserve better, then better will come. Good luck!

Hi Mae,

Trust your instincts on this one. Your instincts, by the way, are SCREAMING at you not to get involved with him again. Sure, he may say all the right things, but your gut is telling you what is actually happening here.

Best,

Inky