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October 21, 2017 at 3:36 am #174067nextstepsParticipant
Hi everyone,
I went through a break up a good few months ago but am still struggling to deal with the effects. He was a saggitarius man who brought fun, optimism and much needed happiness to my life, but we argued sometimes about my pace of making decisions and my walls that made it difficult to trust him. He left me suddenly for another person who he fell in love with very quickly and left me heartbroken as i truly loved him and hadn’t let anyone get that close before. I thought it was true love and he felt like my soulmate.
i know he’s over it and he’s happy with his new fiancé and i know he’s not sorry we broke up as he sees it as my fault and there’s no chance of us being together, but i just can’t seem to get him out of my head, stop dwelling on the past and what i could or should of done differently and move on? No one seems to compare to him. He was the first person i had let past all my walls (a hard thing for a Capricorn) and i am struggling to let go.
ive been reading bout star signs and the fact that capriceorns are often serious, hard working but don’t let their heart rule their heads (unlike saggitarius) and so are often unlucky in love and also tend to be perfectionists and self critical) – those trusts summed me up well and i wanted to ask:
1) does anyone else believe in star signs
2) can you change to be more happy, optimistic and risk taking eg more like a saggitarius rather than some of the seemingly negative characteristics of a Capricorn
3) how do i stop wishing for him to come back and beating myself up for pushing him away and move on. Currently im in a low feeling cycle and I’m struggling to get perspective and move on. I don’t think anyone else will compare to him ever and it’s stopping me moving on. .
has anyone else had s similar experience? Dies s saggitatarus man ever cone back or miss you after its over?
please help. I’m struggling to deal with thr fact he’s happier with someone else.
October 21, 2017 at 6:19 am #174083InkyParticipantHi nextsteps,
Your star sign is your journey, not who you are. Find out your Rising/Ascendant sign. THAT is who you really are. So, if you are a Capricorn, you are actually BECOMING more practical and intellect driven in your lifetime.
Then there is the rest of your chart, and his. Perhaps those could give some clues.
But here’s the thing: He broke up with you only a few months ago and ALREADY has a fiancée? You don’t want him. One does not simply dump a person and get engaged SO soon! It’s insulting to you, himself, and even the other girl, if you think about it.
His new engagement won’t work out. Nor his marriage for very long.
Maybe ten years from now you can give him another chance, but he is not worthy of you yet.
Best,
Inky
October 21, 2017 at 9:17 am #174103ElianaParticipantHi nextsteps,
Yes, I am very much into compatibility with zodiac signs, I have found that Sagittarius is a little too “friendship” oriented and “free spirited” for me, and unfortunately, has never worked out in the romance department. I too am a Capricorn: I copied and pasted and interested peice on compatibility:
Enduring Compatibility
The Sagittarius man is a quester, a seeker and a risk taker. The Capricorn woman, by contrast, is all about the here and the know, the concrete and the knowable. She is not interested in exploring new horizons; she would prefer to build right here, where she is now. And yet Sagittarius man and Capricorn woman compatibility does exist, and the couple can sense it. Perhaps the Sagittarius man is drawn to the power and authority of the Capricorn woman, almost in spite of himself. Perhaps the Capricorn woman is intrigued by the devil may care attitude of the Sagittarius man, although she would probably never admit it.
When this couple stop pretending they’re not interested in each other and finally get together, Sagittarius man Capricorn woman compatibility is evident in the bedroom. This is a fire sign and an earth sign match. The Sagittarius man is a fiery and passionate lover, while the Capricorn woman is a sensual and earthy lover – together they can move mountains and have a whale of a time in the process. Beyond the bedroom, you might be surprised to know that the same kind of compatibility endures too.
The Sagittarius man, once he gets to know her, is impressed with the Capricorn woman’s wisdom and self-assurance. As an intellectual sign, he appreciates knowledge, and she certainly has plenty of that. More of it, in fact, that her age would suggest, as the Capricorn woman is always wiser than her years. For her part, the Capricorn woman appreciates the Sagittarius man’s ability to surprise her and to bring spontaneity into her ordered life. She would probably hate this from most other men, but he does it with such charm that she cannot help but be bowled over. Sagittarius man Capricorn woman compatibility works well because both partners have something to offer the other.
Money Troubles
It’s not without its problems, however. The Sagittarius man doesn’t care about rules and regulations, and will happily go against convention when it suits him – to the horror of his conventional, traditional Capricorn woman. She is embarrassed sometimes by his behavior – but he is also frustrated by her stick in the mud attitude at times, and has little patience for it. Many rows and much of the volatility of this relationship will center around the issue of convention versus freedom – a big issue for Sagittarius man Capricorn woman compatibility.
There’s also the thorny issue of money. The Capricorn woman is very financially savvy, and has saved carefully all of her life. What she will make of her Sagittarius man’s decision to blow their life savings on a boat to sail around the world in… can only be imagined. She will not be pleased. And yet – there’s something wistful about the Capricorn woman which would actually like to throw caution to the wind. And in the Sagittarius man, she finds the perfect excuse. She can blame him. So even on an issue like money, which you might think could be this couple’s downfall, Sagittarius man Capricorn woman compatibility seems strong.
Although the Sagittarius man is not the most faithful of men, he seems to make an exception for the Capricorn woman, and by and large stays committed at her side. Perhaps it’s because the Capricorn woman doesn’t show jealousy, and therefore doesn’t paint him into a corner and try to take away his freedom. Because she lets him be, he gives up his freedom voluntarily. It’s quite something to see. Surprising as it may be, Sagittarius man Capricorn woman compatibility is one of the quirkiest but potentially most enduring matches in the zodiac.”

- This reply was modified 7 years, 2 months ago by Eliana.
October 22, 2017 at 11:43 pm #174269nextstepsParticipantHi Eliana and Inky,
Thankyou for writing back- I appreciate it. That does help and I guess it’s back to working on myself in order to feel better and move forward and not beat myself up about my own mistakes as well that caused him to go away.
thankyou again,
October 23, 2017 at 6:32 pm #174493ElianaParticipantYou’re welcome, post anytime..
November 6, 2017 at 12:15 am #176621LeaParticipantHi Nextsteps, I read your story a few days ago and I can completely relate to what you’re going through. I wanted to reassure you that it does get BETTER. I know how painful that can be and healing is an ongoing process, but you will be on the road to happiness again. When my breakup happened I went through similar emotions, always remember that the feelings will pass. I also believe that we all have more than one soulmate and that we have the potential to make amazing and loving connections with people. Would a soulmate honestly leave you like this? Would you want someone like that in your life who would just leave and marry someone so quickly ? Remember to question your feelings and emotions that come along. Grieve, take the time to self reflect, and take as much time as you need to heal, there is no rush or race. As for your sign, don’t worry and don’t make it a focus, I think every single person has a quality of each sign, we all have the ability to be emotional, struggle to let go, the ability to be confident, and vulnerable. Just remember your one of a kind.
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