An ex of 20  years ago and I decided to reunite and “see” where things go. Things went amazingly well, so well that we decided that I should move to his hometown.  We had our 6 month plan. In the meantime, I flew out to visit him so our children could finally meet face to face, that also went great. Unfortunately, The night I arrived I came across a bumble notification, letting him know he had a new message. ( i was helping his youngest set up an account for a game on the ipad when it showed up). I took 4 days to  mention this to him as the kids had been around,  he said it was because his subscription had automatically renewed and that he would never do anything to ruin what we have as myself , my child and his kids where the most important thing in his life. Truth be told, I know I needed to think about this and when I returned home I let him know that I was hurt and his dating apps shouldn’t be active.. .. he claimed he wasn’t sure how to delete them.

Moving forward I got back on a Monday and that Friday, he let me know that he wasn’t ready for a relationship..ummmmm excuse me!!! I had never introduced my little girl to anyone I was dating in the past! But, what else could I do? then I start getting the radomn texts, Hi, thinking of you. “wish the girls a merry christmas from me please” etc.
then the biggest stab in the back is finding out he’s still on these dating apps and not once even attempted to delete them…I feel like I got lied to, played and most importantly taken advantage of yet again. I had entertained the convos prior but now, I am beyond hurt and pissed!
any advice or questions would be appreciated.

Viv