I agree.  Although she was confident of her progress and ability to move forward it has not come to be.  She did reach out to me this early morning so I know she has feelings but still too much confusion inside.  It tears me up to be away from her.  However, it appears that time and peace are needed.  There is no limit or schedule to this process.  I appreciate your good advice.

Chris

Hi Eliana,

I appreciate your response.  I have experienced many of the same issues on trying to measure up.  I expected this and when done appropriately I appreciated that she had a good relationship with her husband.  However, several times her comments were just plain mean.  I was willing to work with this, knew that she was still hurting and that recovery is not ending for her.

However with time her idolization became even greater.  I think the threat of us having a long and meaningful relationship challenged her and pushed boundaries.  I really feel for her but also had to take care of myself thus having to walk away.  Because I truly cared for her, and although probably too early loved her, I feel horrible.  I was willing to work with her on this but after months of intensity it appears her flame died out for me.  She is solely in love with her deceased husband.

I recognize your experience is greater than mine but will not write off all widows.  I just need to be more aware of the warning signs before I commit.  Thank you for your insight.

With much sadness for all,

Chris