Dear Aimee:

Sometimes we make decisions that seem great on paper, that makes logical sense, and even sound good, but then, after some time, we realize we can’t handle those decisions emotionally.

I would say, revisit the decision you made with your boyfriend, let him know how you feel after having made the decision and talk further. (The decision to move may not change, but maybe some adjustments need to be made).

anita

Dear Aimee,

From this and your previous posts, what seems to be there is a mutually respectful relationship where you are letting each other go. As the time for this nears, you will feel the emotions that you have felt for each other even more.

Remind yourself of all the reasons you took this decision as you move forward. What happens later is not in your control. Being mindful of all the positives that you feel will give you the strength to go through this phase. Feel the gratitude for the love and growth that you have experienced in this relationship so far.

Take care.

Dear Aimee:

You are welcome.

You said everything, conversations were extensive, so the talking part is done, for now.

You wrote in your original post: “my gut just churns.. I don’t know how to go on”. I suppose you learn to go on with that churning gut. Make peace with that emotional sensation best you can, with missing him, with that emptiness. Do your best to distract yourself from it in healthy ways (daily walks, for example), make friends, reach out to those dreams.

And post here anytime with your thoughts and feelings, it may help.

anita