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April 2, 2018 at 3:11 am #200475
AnonymousGuestDear Justin:
Working as a dishwasher is not shameful. It is not considered a prestigious job, doesn’t look attractive on an imaginary relationship resume, but then, lots of jobs don’t look attractive on an imaginary relationship resume.
I didn’t understand this part of your share: “I’ve probably got imposter syndrome. Everything I feel like I enjoy feels like it’s all to support an ego that doesn’t exist.” Can you explain it to me (without using the word ego, if you can)?
anita
April 2, 2018 at 8:39 am #200529
PeterParticipantHi Justin
You noted that you have a tendency to compare yourself with others. This is a good place to start working on in a mindfulness practice. How is the habit of comparing yourself to others working for you? Are there any payoffs you get from comparing yourself to others, even negative payoffs that might reinforce the behavior? Where did the habit come from?
The site has allot of articles associated with this habit of comparison which might help you get started in your practice.
April 2, 2018 at 8:41 am #200531April 2, 2018 at 2:18 pm #200575
MarkParticipantJustin,
1. Your thoughts are super negative
2. You feel pretty alone
3. You are taking care of yourself by eating right, working out, sleeping and meditating
You said that everything you enjoy supports your ego, that you just want to relax and stay comfortable in your current life.
You also said you want to do something more, that you are sick of “this,” etc.
I am confused. If you have super negative thoughts and feeling alone then how are you comfortable in your current life?
What do you enjoy?
What are you sick of? What makes you believe that you are not in the right place?
Mark
April 3, 2018 at 4:58 am #200655
VJParticipantHi Justin,
Use your job that you don’t like as your path to mindfulness.
Will sum up everything in quick pointers.
– Dish washing is considered as an excellent technique for mindfulness. An approach that will lead you to peace and bliss.
– Check out the instructions in this link. It has a pdf version to download too.
(www.huffingtonpost.com/patrick-groneman/mindfulness-tips_b_3484380.html)
– Check this one too..
“There are two ways to wash the dishes. The first is to wash the dishes in order to have clean dishes and the second is to wash the dishes in order to wash the dishes. . . .”
(www.zenwahm.com/mindfulness-practice)
– Mindfulness will get rid of the troublesome thoughts that are going on in your head (everything that you mentioned in your original post above), you will start enjoying your job, you will start enjoying life in general, nowhere to go, nobody needed to fulfill you, your entire consciousness will change, you will feel peaceful and joyful about life.
– Once your inner consciousness is changed, things, places, people, situations, circumstances will begin to change.
Even if they do not change you are still enjoying your life after starting this practice. So either way you are internally free and peaceful.
April 19, 2018 at 3:56 pm #203261
BunParticipantHey Justin,
I know you feel lack of motivation to switch jobs, but if you can’t feel better about your job title, maybe you should find excitement(motivation) in thinking of a new job position. I once stayed in toxic roommate situation because I felt too crippled by being overwhelmed/depression. Eventually, I had no choice but to go. Looking back I realize though it felt nearly impossible to make a change, when the time came when I had no choice, I did make that change and things improved. My point is…I feel you would feel so much happier and lighter to pursue something new, with a title that you respect. It may be hard with no motivation, but just force yourself(if you do want to switch jobs) because in the end it will be worth it and I feel you may be motivated as you see that you can and are moving into a job position that you respect. The minute you start comparing yourself to others you need to stop and be compassionate to yourself. We all have been dealt different cards so to compare “progress” is unfair to you and your life story. Admire those you wish to be like, but try to keep it positive by constantly watching the pesky thoughts.
Example:
Bad: “He has so much more than me”
Good: “Wow, I like what he has. And I will be able to reach that level one day, for now I will take whatever step is next needed”
One step at a time?
No idea if that helped. Sending you light and love brotha 🙂
May 1, 2018 at 6:42 pm #205179
JustinParticipantThank you to everyone for the wonderful tips and advice. I hadnt checked until now.
I took up meditating everyday, and I’m about a month in. I feel more calm in general and more free and less reactive. I went off my ADHD meds recently and despite how I feel I’m still doing what I need to do, mostly. I’ll take a look at those articles, I do enjoy a good knowledge binge.
May 2, 2018 at 4:39 am #205207AnonymousGuestYou are welcome, Justin. Post again anytime.
anita
May 3, 2018 at 6:26 am #205397
jellybeanParticipantDear Justin
What things interests you? Perhaps painting? Something related to IT programming? You could take some time to think about it and do some research how you could further pursue those interest? My sister was diagnosed with ADHD. It is not easy for learning development but I do know a guy who successfully became a fitness instructor. These days you can further develop this career – become a youtube fitness instructor, volunteer to teach self defence to those who were abused etc. You are a wonderful human and there are many things you could contribute which someone else would find difficulty in.
You mentioned through meditation you could ‘wean off’ ADHA meds. That is FANTASTIC! My sister might have great difficulty to do that. Basically she doesnt like religion nor meditation. You could become a great inspiration to people who are struggling with some kind of difficulty.
I wish you much success.
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