Hi mommalicious,

I think you observed correctly that by unblocking him you are hoping that he will contact you, you’re leaving the door open for him to come back to you.
But the truth is that if at some point he really wants you back and is sure of it, he will find a way to communicate that to you. In fact, he will not rest until he does. Remember all these silly romantic movies with the guy running in the street just to tell a girl how he feels about her before she gets on a plane? Well, it might be silly and exaggerated and I really don’t like romantic movies, but I think that these scenes are a metaphor for how we feel when we know we love someone and want to be with them. It becomes the most important thing in our eyes, to communicate with that person, just like you said “he’s like a drug to me”.

The reason I’m saying this is to make you see, that unblocking him will not improve the chances of him coming back to you. In fact I believe if anything, it makes it less likely to happen. So my advice is, block him so that you can get on with your life and so that he will understand that he cannot change his mind on you whenever his mood changes and you’ll still always be there for him.
If he really loves you and overcomes his issues, then he will find a way to communicate that to you. After all, you’ve made it very clear that you were interested in him.

I know how these things works, at some point you might think, “well what if he does want me back but because I blocked him he cannot get in touch/will think I’m not interested”. No. If he really wants you back, he will try anyway and he will find a way to speak to you. So don’t worry about that.
Block him and move on.

Hi mommalicious,

In reaction to what Inky wrote – I’m not too familiar with all the options in the different social medias because I have been off FB for a few years now (and so much better off this way!), so please consider my use of the term “blocking” as any action on your end that removes this person from your field of vision and cuts off your contact with him, which is the important thing here.

I believe that in order to make the breakup less painful and to help you get on with your life it is essential that you will not be informed on a daily basis on everything that your ex is up to. So if that means “block”, “unfriend” or any other action that’s up to you, the idea I was trying to convey here was that you should not have contact with this person at all.

Hi Guys!

OK, Blocking means you can’t find the other person and the other person can’t find you. It’s as if you don’t exist on FB to them.

Unfriend means you don’t see their posts, but you can find their Profile (but not their Posts).

Hide means you don’t see their posts in your Newsfeed but if you look at their Profile you can see their posts.

Inky

Like anita said – the final, loving msg you sent to him was GReat and very kind of you.

I wish you all the best. Life is tougher because of all the love struggles. It’s very difficult to resign oneself to never hearing from a loved one again.
He definitely has things to improve about himself. But it is very important to pay attention to why he wanted to end things – and with that in mind, work to improve your end too. if you don’t, then this situation, and this pain may repeat itself later on with someone else. I hope that never happens.
Relationships are like a love school and you will repeat a class again and again until you improve and learn your own personal lessons.

Take care…

Hi Lisa,

Not sure if anyone is even reading these posts anymore but I just came across this blog. I am in the exact same situation as you and I feel the same! It is refreshing to know that I am not crazy and I am not all alone in this like I have felt for so long. I am hoping that you were finally able to let that relationship go. I hope that I can get to that point with mine. I just blocked him today so this is going to be a long road for me. I need to stop hoping and accept that I cannot change him or his ways and that loving someone is not enough to make a relationship work.

Thank you to the rest of you for your great advice, these are things I have needed to hear and will try my hardest to remember when I start feeling weak for him again.