Dear Omyk:

Thank you for wishing everyone here well, and good to read from you again!

You were widowed 3 years ago, moved to a new house 2 years ago, and currently, you have “a strong desire” (your words) to declutter your house, to remove bins and bags of your late wife’s belongings, including loads of photos. Your teenage child has shown no interest in the belongings. (I find it interesting, that your teenage child has shown no interest in keeping his/ her mother’s/ parents’ many photos..?)

As the head of the household, and the only adult in the house, you are in charge and I think that it’s fine for you to unload any and all belongings that are not needed or wanted. Hiring someone to do the work reads like a good idea to me. I just looked it up: professional organizers or declutter coaches is what they are called. Their job is (I am looking at glad. com/ teachable trash/ tips for decluttering your home) to go through your belongings and, according to your instructions, place your belongings in different categories: Trash, Give Away/ Sell, Storage, and Put Away, and proceed to discard, donate, etc.

I think that decluttering is a healthy move: Decluttering the House=> Decluttering the Mind.

anita

Hi Omyk

I’m glad to hear that things are going a lot better for you now and that you have a sense of purpose. I hope that things continue on this path and keep getting better for you.

Thank you for your kind wishes!

This is a big step, it sounds like one you have thought out well and are ready for. You are a good father to keep things for when your child is older. As you know, the nature of children is not to appreciate the importance of these things when they are young.

It is good that you have already sorted through everything and already have kept the things that you are attached to.

Because the person you will hire isn’t you, it might be a good idea to provide some instructions for them as to the kinds of things that should be kept for when your child is older?

You mentioned that there are a lot of photos. Perhaps they could be removed from frames and go into a photo album?

It makes sense that you are still attached to your wife. I think that is a natural thing.

Good luck with finding someone to help you out with all of this stuff. I think that is a really good idea because truly, you are very busy.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏