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September 30, 2017 at 7:13 am #171007lissParticipant
Hi,
My name is liss and I live in Europe. I have always been a bit different then the most people. Everyone was religous, I believe in spiritual energies. Everyone is on instagram and facebook and stuff, i have deleted all my social media. Eveyone goes out to buy expensive clothes and stuff, i go out to buy books. I am vegan, an artist, spiritually awake, I read books and watch movies that manifests beautiful thoughts for me. I meditate out in nature, and i listen to a lot of healing music.
I love myself the way i am, I wouldn’t change it for nothing. The thing is, I just feel a litlle alone sometimes. I wouldn’t call it lonely, cause I love being alone often. I just wish I had someone to be alone with sometimes, if that makes sense. Where I come from, no one is spiritually woke, vegan, open-minded to talk about life, the universe, the soul etc. Long story short, there is no one like me. Altough I have tried to connect with people who are different, I never click with them.
My dad had left us at when we we’re just kids, so I had to help my mom in the house. Altough she never pushed me to it, I felt like I had to. My 2 brothers could always go out with their friends, while I was at home cooking, cleaning and taking of my mom (she didn’t take the divorce verry well). So because of that, I never went to parties or ehatever, I was alone and okay with that.
Now i’m getting close to becoming 18 and Lately I have been wondering what it would be like to have a friend like me. Like I said, I don’t need it cause I’m used to being alone, I just wish I could have real talk with someone. Meditate, listen to music and stuff. I don’t know what to do, or how tmto meet people like me. Especially since I come from a little place where everyone knows eachother. I’m going to move to London in 2 years, so maybe I will meet someone there. But I don’t know if I can live another 2 years and maybe even longer, like this.
If anyone has any tips to meet people like me, I would highly appreciate it.
September 30, 2017 at 10:39 am #171077AnonymousGuestDear liss:
I don’t know how you could meet people like you living in “a little place where everyone knows each other”- maybe reach out online as you did here- maybe someone reading this will reply to you, someone feeling that she or he is like you. But then it is most likely someone who does not live where you do or close and is not likely to spend time with you in person. There are so many people in London, I think you will find a few people there who share a lot with you.
I hope you will get another reply or replies here. You are welcome to post again with your thoughts and feelings otherwise.
anita
October 1, 2017 at 10:50 pm #171215NParticipantHi Liss,
I have a very similar story to yours except I live in Canada. I am not religious, I consider myself to be spiritual/pagan and I’m not invested in the material consumerist culture either. My mother didn’t take her divorce well either so my sister and I overcompensated and were very well-behaved as kids, we never went out to parties, we never drank or smoked… We spent all our time at home with my mom helping her and making sure that she didn’t feel lonely. The problem is that I never was able to find any “community” of like minded people to myself, or any social groups because I was/am shy …. And now that I’m 23 I’m the one who’s lonely. The easiest thing for me to solve this would to be to go to church, and join a religion; But honestly, I can’t. It’s not in my heart and I don’t believe it. So I just remain a loner.
I don’t have a solution for you, but I understand your loneliness. Quite often I find myself crying because I consider the fact that I may never have friends, or get married, or have children. And it breaks my heart.
I hope you read this, and find comfort in knowing you’re not alone in this situation
Sincerely,
N
October 2, 2017 at 4:24 am #171225InkyParticipantHi Liss,
I think you would have better luck in London. Surely there are vegan cafes, metaphysical bookstores and even hiking groups that would get out of the city together.
Do they have Meet Ups in Europe? Where you go on line and someone posts “Hey! Pagan/Vegan/Whatever Meetup at Regeants Park Saturday Noon!” type of thing?
Seek and ye shall find!
Inky
October 2, 2017 at 6:47 am #171221FarParticipantI’m almost the same as you, almost in my 40’s and always regarded as being different from the normal. I have the same fears as you are but I have learned to accept everything. I try my best to do what is right, whether people accept or don’t accept me for that, I really don’t have to care as long as I don’t hurt anybody. Although I can still feel sad, I always think of our Creator that is just a heartbeat away from me. I find solace in nature, that everything and everyone has a purpose. Learn to meditate and pray, it will be help. You may be solitary but you’re never alone.
October 14, 2017 at 5:39 pm #173149PurplebubbleParticipantNot sure if I can offer much advice but I’m in a similar boat and have similar interests, vegan also.
I live in London, 22 though.
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