Dear susana:

I assume this is the same boyfriend you wrote about March last year. I think you did very well asking him about his future plans even though the answer was not what you wished to hear. It was nice of you, very kind of you to continue the travel with him regardless of the awkwardness.

From your previous thread I see that he never had future plans with you beyond visitations. And that didn’t change. He still has the same plan: visits, that is all.

You have the information you need about his plans and intents. That information, I hope, will lead you to moving to the UK, starting your new job soon and investing all you have in it. A new life in the UK.

I do hope you let go of him and not meet him again. And that you will be meeting another man, maybe in the UK, one whose plans for the future will fit yours.

Relax best you can, take it a day at a time, sometimes a moment at a time. When anxious go for a fast walk outside. Listen to relaxing music… take a hot bath, relax again and again. And in small steps prepare for your move to the UK and your new life there. Hope you post again.

anita

Dear susana:

You are welcome. If loneliness gets to you in the UK, maybe there are support groups you can attend, people getting together, in person. That may be something you can look up on like and attend there soon after you arrive there.

anita