Hi everyone, I have been struggling in all of my relationships. All my relationships never lasts. First of all I am a very quiet person, an antisocial but fun when I am with close family and friends. I have been having a problem of letting go of past relationships, I was entering one relationship after another without completely healing on the previous one, so most where based on rebound. The behaviour was unhealthy as it never builds a stable relationship. I now have a three years old son, and I broke up with his father when he was one and half year.
After I broke up with the father of my child, I took time before getting into any relationship. I took a one and half year break. There is a guy that I like and we talked and exchanged numbers. This guy is not in my normal age group. All my ex boyfriends are ranging from 27-32. He is 41 and I am 27. I am not sure if this is a problem but somehow I feel.nervous about the age difference.
This is whats happening…
He is working a stressful job in procedural law, and also studying towards his second degree. I am a banker, studying towards my degree and also having businesses. My guy is very unavailable, we hardly talk, we talk on the social media, he just greet and that it. He say he want to have a meaningful relationship with me. To me it does not look like it. His excuse is that he a too busy with exams and work. I am also busy but I atleast spare 5 minutes to check on him and see if he s ohk. But he never does take even 5 minutes to talk to me.
He say I mist be patient with him, I am afraid of telling him that he is not putting effort, I feel like I am going to.sound impatient and immature.
Do i always check my maturity level when am with him, will I bore him if I sound needy and clingy, will this age difference be visible and am I the one who has to move up to his level. I feel like screaming right now as this makes me frastrated. Most of the time I tell him we can just leave the relationship if we are forcing things, but he refuses. He says we are eventually going to be fine. Early stage of relationship suppose to be warm, memorable, crazy..but this one is hell of a cold frizen case. What do I do?
Thank you for any advice