Hi Zaica! Thank you for confiding in me, I am always glad to help when someone asks. About your friend, from experience, only go into details with those you know give unbiased advise, aim for those kinds of friends Zaica, they are jewels right now. Now about your situation, I really don’t know why they dislike him so much. Was he abusive? I would not want you to go back to that if he was Zaica. Now if it is more of a religious or just cultural thing then go for what YOU want Zaica, they will not be there forever and you will just be withering away into unhappiness by doing what they ask of you. One clear way to fail in life is to want to please everyone around you. As a single mother of 2…living on our own, paying my own bills, nanny for my newborn, & private school for my boy I can tell you it wasn’t easy gaining complete independence but it’s possible! You know they say the first step is the hardest, for me it was, and I believe that is where you are right now. Confusion, fear, guilt, etc… What worked for me was meditation, through devoted practice was how I gained the courage to leave my ex husband, get an apartment, and a job. Not all at the same time, but as soon as I leaped everything magically got into place. Your situation is much different than mine when I left my husband but in root I know you are also seeking to stand on your own 2 feet. You can do it Zaica, even without your family if they are not willing to respect your desires. You are not their little girl anymore, but a grown woman who wants to form her own family. I think you should take on your husband’s offer and have the 3 of you away from the in-laws even if that means renting his father’s apartment for a year. What’s key here is you are all out of their noses, living on your own, forming a nest only for you. Sorry if I went too long on my feedback, I like to cover all aspects when asked for advise hehe 🙂

Hi Dillo, first of all I love how you phrased that “through a series of enlightening events.” Your post is so enriching on many levels, thank you, thank you, thank you! I do get angry sometimes but I will read and re read as many times as needed to understand this is a beautiful part of their story and they are meant for nothing else but greatness. I should be more careful as to the way I view this situation when I am feeling weak. Lots of love to you and your son, again thank you for your strength and wisdom. Besos!