Hi Joe! I was reading your story and I can relate to emotions that go along with should I stay and try to make it work with someone who I have built this life with or start over. For me, I make a decision and then I go back on it because no matter what there will be emotions to cope with letting go of one or the other and that If I base my decisions on emotions, I will always go back and forth. So I am trying to look at the logistics,; what looks best for me 5 years down the road and what is reasonable to believe is doable? Only you can decide what is best for you. Wish I could say something more insightful but this is where I am at as well.

Hi Joe!

First I would take a step back.  There is no rush to make an important decision. When you don’t have an answer, for me then one is not possibly available yet. How does your fiance feel about trying again? What are her expectations? What kind of physical attraction do you have to the new girl? Is there chemistry or is she just really nice? You have to first be really honest with yourself, not only about what’s possible but also if it could work again with the fiance . Are the problems that you once had fixed on an individual level? How do you know? Could it be possible that maybe neither of the women are meant for you next relationship?