Tag: Peace

  • Why It’s Hard to Trust Our Instincts and How to Start

    Why It’s Hard to Trust Our Instincts and How to Start

    Rock Climbing

    “Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” ~Benjamin Spock

    I was talking to a friend of mine a couple weeks ago. I was telling her how I always know when it’s time for me to move. She asked me, “How do you know? What makes you aware that you ‘know’ this?”

    It was a reasonable question: What is the actual sign that indicates that you “know” to do anything?

    “You just know,” I told her.

    “But how?” she asked, curiously.

    I didn’t really have a good answer for her at the time, but it stuck with me.

    After thinking about it for awhile, I realized it’s not in the “knowing” that we get stuck. We always know. It’s in how well we trust what we know, and whether we’re willing to trust it enough to act upon it.

    So, how do you know that you “know” something?

    Well, let me ask you this: How did you know that you were going to marry the person you married, or take the job you were offered, or go see the new doctor you read about?

    What made you decide that this was the right decision for you? What made you “know” that the house you bought was the right one for you or the apartment you chose to rent was the perfect spot for you?

    It’s intangible, isn’t it? It’s a feeling. You know, and then you “know” that you know. (more…)

  • Mindfulness in Everyday Tasks: How to Get the Most from Your Chores

    Mindfulness in Everyday Tasks: How to Get the Most from Your Chores

    “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

    Last night I did something I rarely do. Drum roll please…

    …last night I cooked.

    Okay, to be fair, I more prepped than cooked. But my willingness to participate in this domestic ritual, with my boyfriend at the helm, was certainly not the norm. Neurotic as I may be with organizing and cleaning, cooking has never been my thing.

    For starters, I’m cheap with food. I’d rather spend money on books and pedicures than saffron and truffles. I realize I could channel my inner Rachael Ray and learn to make budget-friendly meals, but an even easier approach is to make full use of my Subway rewards card.

    It’s not just my aversion to spending on consumables that attracts me to cheap take-out and cereal. It’s also a matter of priorities.

    I look at the day as blocks of time—much like Hugh Grant in About a Boy. Left to my own devices, I fill those blocks with tried-and-tested activities, like writing, reading, watching movies, and practicing yoga. Suffice it to say, cooking isn’t on my list.

    I know I enjoy my world better when I make little changes to my routine—when I take alternative routes to familiar places or make spontaneous plans with old friends, for example. But sometimes I need reminders to do things differently.

    Tonight’s reminder brought me to the cutting board, and I must admit I enjoyed it far more than I would have imagined. (more…)

  • How to Find Peace of Mind in Under 500 Words

    How to Find Peace of Mind in Under 500 Words

    “All the flowers of all the tomorrows are in the seeds of today.” ~Proverb

    Practice and patience are like inseparable twins that have the capacity to bring us great joy when in harmony, and great angst when they are not.

    Consider the phrase: “Practice and all is coming….”

    I didn’t realize the depth of this statement when I first read it in my Ashtanga yoga manual several years ago.

    Sri K Pattabhi Jois was the Yogi who said it repeatedly to all his students. And it is perfectly reasonable for one to assume he was referring to the daily practice of yoga.

    But one morning during my writing practice (my daily moving meditation), I realized the true essence of his statement.

    For as long as I can remember I have strived to know peace—that is, peace while living in the ‘real’ world and freedom from my cluttered mind. (more…)

  • 3 Steps To Practice Acceptance & Have a Peaceful Life

    3 Steps To Practice Acceptance & Have a Peaceful Life

    Cloudy Sky

    “Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day.” ~Unknown

    I was in a motorbike accident in 1987. The physician in the emergency room delivered the bad news and told me the right knee cap had cracked. That day changed my life forever.

    How could I accept that I wouldn’t ever be able to run again?

    The physical injury took years to heal, and a lot of time passed before I slowly started to accept my new situation. In the meantime, I got depressed.

    Life Can Be Beautiful

    That might seem like an ironic heading coming after the preceding line, but hear me out. Life is beautiful every time you’re able to accept something that has gone wrong. When you can feel good on the whole even though things aren’t going your way, you know emotional freedom. What more could you ask for?

    The opposite would be the guy who shouts in despair, “Not again, for God’s sake!” when his sports car breaks down in the middle of nowhere or needs thousands of dollars of work on that car. Neither is a fun situation to be in. But what about people that don’t even have food to eat?

    It’s all about perspective, isn’t it? Are you looking at life through Ray Bans or from a refugee camp? We must learn to see and appreciate what we have and shift our attention from what we’ve lost. (more…)

  • 10 Things That Are Real: How to Take a Break & Connect with Yourself

    10 Things That Are Real: How to Take a Break & Connect with Yourself

    “The world doesn’t happen to you, it happens from you.” ~Unknown

    It’s easy for me to drown in the sea of day-to-day things. How can I not when technology, social networks, phone calls, and the pressure to be successful in spite of the economic downturn constantly bombard me?

    It’s almost as if catching a breath of air, and not a forced one, has become increasingly difficult. The world as we know it is constantly evolving before our eyes. How are we to keep up? Must we keep up if it means losing sight of the simplicities we cherish?

    Some of us, myself included, become so immersed in everyone and everything with a sense of urgency and expediency; we become almost robotic “beings,” executing tasks just to complete them.

    Don’t forget to breathe. Every breath of air is a well-earned one, no matter who you are or what’s on your plate. As a human being, it is your right to unwind and take a break from the numbers, bills, texts, tweets, status updates, emails, phone calls, and the mesmerizing touch-screen wonderlands.

    It is your right, and never too late, to allow yourself to experience and enjoy the little things; these simple but real pleasures:

    1. Create something.

    Everyone is an artist, whether visually, with words, or even numbers. Take what you know and put your mind to it. Better yet, share your creation with someone. A personal touch can brighten someone’s day.

    2. Ask genuinely.

    Ask a friend, partner, or colleague, “How are you today?” and mean it wholeheartedly. How? Look them in the eye, even if it seems uncomfortable, and let them know you’re taking the time to care.

    3. Be a giver.

    Perhaps you’re excited about the way an experimental recipe of yours turned out. Bring a dish to work to share with a co-worker without expecting any compensation. Or, drop a surprise cookie on someone’s desk when they’re on a break. People enjoy unexpected indulgences.

    4. Hand-write someone a haiku.

    It’s not rocket science or elitist literature. Just follow the five-seven-five rule and write something that’s meaningful to you and/or the person for whom it’s intended.

    5. Open up.

    Let someone listen to your story. In person. You never know what insights can be gained.

    6. Resurrect a hobby.

    Break out that old, dusty pair of rollerblades from 1995 and hit the pavement at full speed. (Just be careful and make sure you pad up those knees, elbows, and that head of yours.) Or, build houses out of popsicle sticks and Elmer’s Glue. Pay no mind to those who tell you you’re too old. Live young.

    7. Snail mail.

    It’s not convenient; it’s not supposed to be. That’s the point. Put some thought into a card or hand-written letter and mail it off with a good, old-fashioned Forever stamp. It’ll get there when it gets there and the recipient will love opening it.

    8. Switch off.

    Shut down your laptop and cell phone one warm-weathered Saturday afternoon and enjoy the day unfold. Try not to be afraid of what you’re missing. The world will go on, and you will, too.

    9. Read a book.

    A real, paper book with pages that can be turned by your very own finger tips! Take a pencil, mark it up, circle your favorite excerpts or draw hearts around your favorite characters’ names. Just take a break from the Kindle or any other touch-enabled tablet.

    10. Jot it down.

    What have you learned today? “Nothing” is not an answer. Every day, you have the chance to learn and explore new things. Did you learn that a moth lands differently than a butterfly? Write it down! Did you discover a new hiking trail in your hometown? Make note of that, too! Discoveries help to shape the human experience.

    Remember, in an ever-evolving world, you are what’s real.

    Photo by notsogoodphotography

  • 50 Ways to Be More Peaceful and Mindful Throughout Your Day

    50 Ways to Be More Peaceful and Mindful Throughout Your Day

    “Peace is not something you wish for. It’s something you make, something you do, something you are, and something you give away.” ~Robert Fulghum

    Recently I’ve been spending a lot of time visiting 1000 Awesome Things, a blog devoted to the many simple pleasures in life. Some of them remind me of being a kid, like this one about celebrities on Sesame Street. Others remind of me I’m stronger than I think, like this one about getting through difficult situations.

    With that in mind, you can imagine how excited I am to receive a copy of Neil’s upcoming book, aptly named The Book of Awesome. I’m even more excited that I’ll be able to give away two autographed copies when I write my review. (Coming soon!)

    In the meantime, as a way to pay tribute to this awesome book and my awesome new friend, I’ve decided to create my own awesome list, tinybuddha style.

    Here are fifty peaceful things to help you be mindful and happy throughout the day: (more…)

  • Choose to Lose

    Choose to Lose

    Two Friends

    “Being right is highly overrated. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.” ~Unknown

    We all know someone who always needs to be right.

    She turns everything into an argument worthy of a courtroom, complete with counter arguments and below-the-belt accusations. She finds holes in everything you say, even if you were actually agreeing with her. And in the end she needs the last word, even if means belittling you or ignoring your feelings.

    Not everyone acts this righteous all the time, but we’ve likely all tried to win in an argument at least once before.

    Maybe it’s the rush of feeling like the more powerful or intelligent person, or perhaps it’s just a stubborn resistance to bending. Whatever the case, we all play to win in conversations on occasion.

    The irony here is that winning rarely feels as sweet as the fighter imagines it will. Research shows competitve people take less pleasure in their successes than their less combative counter parts because they’re rarely satisfied with their accomplishments, ever-ready to seek the next win. (more…)