Posts tagged with “Love”
To Fully Heal Your Broken Heart, Make Sure You Do This
âGrief is healthy and it is healing.â ~Richard Moss
When I was a little girl there was this belief floating around in my head that there was only one person. One person who was my soulmate. One person who could love me. I think the belief was formed by some concoction of Disney movies, religion, and American culture.
Whatâs worse than this belief is that I somehow found myself afraid that I wouldnât even have one person. I was afraid I would be alone. Forever.
I donât know when I adopted the belief that I wasnât enough, that I …
What to Do When Your Partner Wonât Work on Your Relationship
âIt takes two to manage the relationship, but it takes one to begin the change.â ~Sheri E. Ragland
So, your significant other doesn’t understand you. In fact you’re not even sure if they hear you. Despite trying to talk about things or take a break from each other, you end up arguing about the same thing over and over again.
You try this and you try that. You back away, you move in. You break up, you get back together. You try everything you can think of, and nothing is working, but you don’t want to end the relationship.…
5 Things You Need to Tell Yourself After a Painful Breakup
Have you ever experienced a breakup or divorce but still loved the other person you were saying goodbye to?
I met my ex-girlfriend on a rooftop in Istanbul. I had just sold everything I owned to travel the world, and she was a tour leader in Asia.
She was everything I had been searching for: beautiful, confident, and funny. I followed her to India and China. She followed me to Australia. When the money and visas ran out, we moved back to Canada, found an apartment, got a cat, and shared a strong, healthy relationship for over five years.
And …
Healing After an Affair: How to Get Through the Pain of Infidelity
âI will breathe. I will think of solutions, I will not let my worry control me. I will not let my stress level break me. I will simply breathe. And it will be okay. Because I donât quit.â ~Shayne McClendon
It was a Wednesday afternoon in late July, and I felt like my entire world was coming to an end. My husband of almost eleven years had become distant, and during a phone call on my lunch break he told me he couldnât do this anymore. That evening he told me he no longer loved me and wanted a divorce…
How We Can Stop Judging Others and Ourselves
âThere is no path to peace. Peace is the path.â ~Mahatma Gandhi
We live in a world of ticker headlines, 24/7 news, and constantly updating Instagram and Facebook feeds. We are constantly making snap-decision judgment calls, categorizing what we see into “good,” “bad,” or “unimportant.”
In a second, we can see an image and believe we have all we need to form a fully realized opinion.
Itâs in our biological wiring to judge everything we seeâit’s how we have survived for generations upon generations. We are in a constant state of scanning our environment for threats and attempting to efficiently …
Dealing with Rejection: It Doesnât Mean That Youâre Not Good Enough
âThe best way out is always throughâ ~Robert Frost
I was trembling as I hung up the phone. Heâd dumped me.
It was as if, while I was watching a murder mystery at the edge of my seat, the electricity had gone out. Poof! I wasn’t going to get to see the end of the movie, and I had no control over when the lights would come back on.
I felt the fangs of rejection sink into my heart like a merciless tarantula. My mind, which is normally going 500 miles an hour, came to a halt. Suddenly I felt …
Does Your Partner Often Get Angry and Shut Down Emotionally?
âUntil you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.â ~Carl Jung
Three years ago I was on top of the world after realizing I had fallen in love with my best friend. Relationships this rare are beautiful, until one vital piece of them breaks down: clear communication.
Although I didnât know it at the time, when my ex and I came together as a couple, rather than being in love, we were both just mirroring each otherâs deep unconscious pain; his mother had walked out on him at a young age, and …
You Have to Know Youâre Worthy to Attract a Healthy Relationship
âYour problem is you’re too busy holding onto your unworthiness.â ~Ram Dass
Three years ago I went through a breakup with someone I loved deeply.
I had no idea what had happened to me after I fell in love with this girl. I now know that I was asleep from the beginning to the very end of the relationship.
I was totally encapsulated with this girl to the point where I could not see what was in front of me. I was unable to see the red flags that were there in the beginning.
When I first laid eyes on …
30 Trillion Reasons to Be Grateful: An Ode to the Awesome Human Body
âWhat spirit is so empty and blind, that it cannot recognize the fact that the foot is more noble than the shoe, and skin more beautiful than the garment with which it is clothed?â ~Michelangelo
âStop hunching! Stand up straight!â This is what I heard as a young child.
A running commentary on my appearance continued throughout my childhood. It was well intended, but not entirely helpful.
I grew self-conscious. If youâve ever decided youâre too tall or too short or too fat or too thin, or that some parts of your body look unsatisfactory, youâll understand.
Then I went …
How Introverts Can Meet People Without Bars or Booze
âBe yourself, because an original is worth more than a copy.â ~Unknown
There was a moment during my twenties years when I realized I was an introvert.
Now, this may sound like a mundane realization to you, but trust me, this was the Big Epiphany of my young life.
I spent my teenage years pretending to be someone else. Like a lot of my friends, I went out as much as possible. I partied. I was loud.
Until it dawned on me: I hated going out. I hated parties. I wasnât loud. Honestly? I just wanted to stay home, drink …
The Key to Letting Go of Your Ex: Love Them More
“The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.” ~Barbara De Angelis
My first love broke my heart into microscopic little pieces. I honestly didnât think Iâd survive. Losing him was like losing a limb. I couldnât function.
Yet, by the time that he and I had parted ways, our connection was already severed, bleeding, brokenâhanging on by threads we both imagined were there.
When we met, we were idealistic, open-hearted, trusting teenagers. Three years later, we were both addicts, self-harming in our own ways, and both in …
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