Glad u are handling everything better now 🙂

After talking with Gemini AI and watching a video: Inside the mind of an avoidant attacher, i realized that perhaps my shutdown came because of unmet needs, of things i didnt voice when my mind was telling me to, or it was because of me being afraid to leave my comfort zone. The guy in the video (Levi) mentions that whenever the “ick” was present, he just needed space and he would be looking for connection again (with the same partner) but that was caused because he didn’t set his boundaries. Ofc he never knew it until he looked up attachment styles and all. With his current GF, whenever he feels like he needs space, he tells her, she’s fine and he goes into “discussion with his parts” or something like that, he called it, where basically he communicates with his inner child, then he’s ready to connect with his GF again and solve issues. Which is strange because when i felt all these in november, i remember feeling like “leave me alone for now, but don’t leave me for good”, but ofc i couldn’t say it because i didn’t know what was happening or how long i would need space.